Comments on: Who Needs Approval?

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Sat, 18 Jul 2009 09:27:51 +0000

[...] Who needs approval – AdvancedLifeSkills – Another well written article from Jonathan Wells and a great conversation by way of comments at the end of the post. The thing about this article is that Jonathan gave an explanation as to why we week approval and it’s not why you might think, very thought provoking. [...]

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:13:37 +0000

Hi Paul, you are absolutely right about the connection between parental love and self-approval. I requires some specific techniques to dismantle those deeply ingrained limiting beliefs and their emotional anchors. My book “7 Simple Steps” walks you through the process. It’s also noteworthy that those who find it difficult to feel or express love (like your parents) often suffer from a lack of self-approval themselves.

By: Paul Maurice Martin

Paul Maurice Martin — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:45:11 +0000

“Love is the ultimate expression of approval.” This is very insightful as well as the whole connection you make here between approval and love. Self approval can be an especially high hurdle for folks who felt unloved by both parents.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:35:12 +0000

Hi Celes, This is a very common scenario. The more lacking someone is in self-love and self-approval, the more they crave it. Of course, they look for it from external sources which can never quite fill the void. This tactic often backfires because others feel their neediness and pull back. Insecurity tends to repel others rather than attract them. It’s a vicious emotional circle.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:48:50 +0000

Hi Kate, you are absolutly right. I couldn’t phrase it and better than Dragos did in (comment #32) when he said: “This is the most vulnerable spot on our armor and it also triggers the most violent yet silent attacks on our self-esteem.”