Comments on: Who Needs Approval? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/ Wisdom from Outside the Box Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:51:42 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: From Imagination to Realization – Bridging the Gap « ImaginePublicity http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-6962 From Imagination to Realization – Bridging the Gap « ImaginePublicity Thu, 04 Mar 2010 18:29:47 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-6962 [...] progress. One of the things that can help us stay motivated during this process is to continually acknowledge our progress. Every single time you accomplish even the tiniest goal, write it down, check it off, and celebrate [...] [...] progress. One of the things that can help us stay motivated during this process is to continually acknowledge our progress. Every single time you accomplish even the tiniest goal, write it down, check it off, and celebrate [...]

]]> By: Great Personal Development articles - Sunday Siesta - June 28th | Change your thoughts http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3696 Great Personal Development articles - Sunday Siesta - June 28th | Change your thoughts Sat, 18 Jul 2009 09:27:51 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3696 [...] Who needs approval – AdvancedLifeSkills – Another well written article from Jonathan Wells and a great conversation by way of comments at the end of the post. The thing about this article is that Jonathan gave an explanation as to why we week approval and it’s not why you might think, very thought provoking. [...] [...] Who needs approval – AdvancedLifeSkills – Another well written article from Jonathan Wells and a great conversation by way of comments at the end of the post. The thing about this article is that Jonathan gave an explanation as to why we week approval and it’s not why you might think, very thought provoking. [...]

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3463 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:13:37 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3463 Hi Paul, you are absolutely right about the connection between parental love and self-approval. I requires some specific techniques to dismantle those deeply ingrained limiting beliefs and their emotional anchors. My book "7 Simple Steps" walks you through the process. It's also noteworthy that those who find it difficult to feel or express love (like your parents) often suffer from a lack of self-approval themselves. Hi Paul, you are absolutely right about the connection between parental love and self-approval. I requires some specific techniques to dismantle those deeply ingrained limiting beliefs and their emotional anchors. My book “7 Simple Steps” walks you through the process. It’s also noteworthy that those who find it difficult to feel or express love (like your parents) often suffer from a lack of self-approval themselves.

]]> By: Paul Maurice Martin http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3462 Paul Maurice Martin Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:45:11 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3462 "Love is the ultimate expression of approval." This is very insightful as well as the whole connection you make here between approval and love. Self approval can be an especially high hurdle for folks who felt unloved by both parents. “Love is the ultimate expression of approval.” This is very insightful as well as the whole connection you make here between approval and love. Self approval can be an especially high hurdle for folks who felt unloved by both parents.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3457 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:35:12 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3457 Hi Celes, This is a very common scenario. The more lacking someone is in self-love and self-approval, the more they crave it. Of course, they look for it from external sources which can never quite fill the void. This tactic often backfires because others feel their neediness and pull back. Insecurity tends to repel others rather than attract them. It's a vicious emotional circle. Hi Celes, This is a very common scenario. The more lacking someone is in self-love and self-approval, the more they crave it. Of course, they look for it from external sources which can never quite fill the void. This tactic often backfires because others feel their neediness and pull back. Insecurity tends to repel others rather than attract them. It’s a vicious emotional circle.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3452 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:48:50 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3452 Hi Kate, you are absolutly right. I couldn't phrase it and better than Dragos did in (comment #32) when he said: "This is the most vulnerable spot on our armor and it also triggers the most violent yet silent attacks on our self-esteem." Hi Kate, you are absolutly right. I couldn’t phrase it and better than Dragos did in (comment #32) when he said: “This is the most vulnerable spot on our armor and it also triggers the most violent yet silent attacks on our self-esteem.”

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3451 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:44:22 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3451 Robin, you are so aware of your deepest emotions. Not too many people have looked that closely at their core. I love this statement: "For me to see this on these levels and other more surface levels allowed me to acknowledge my need for approval but to also set myself free by making “self-approval” my top priority." This is exactly the balance we should seek. Thank you! Robin, you are so aware of your deepest emotions. Not too many people have looked that closely at their core. I love this statement: “For me to see this on these levels and other more surface levels allowed me to acknowledge my need for approval but to also set myself free by making “self-approval” my top priority.” This is exactly the balance we should seek. Thank you!

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3450 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:38:04 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3450 Hey Dragos, this is a great quote: "This is the most vulnerable spot on our armor and it also triggers the most violent yet silent attacks on our self-esteem." Like I said to Ian, I truly appreciate your input and actually like it when readers are willing to present alternate viewpoints. After all, real conversation is a two way exchange. Mutual respect makes the exchange both thought provoking and enjoyable. Of course, it's also nice that we are on the same page the vast majority of the time. Thanks my friend. Hey Dragos, this is a great quote: “This is the most vulnerable spot on our armor and it also triggers the most violent yet silent attacks on our self-esteem.”

Like I said to Ian, I truly appreciate your input and actually like it when readers are willing to present alternate viewpoints. After all, real conversation is a two way exchange. Mutual respect makes the exchange both thought provoking and enjoyable.

Of course, it’s also nice that we are on the same page the vast majority of the time. Thanks my friend.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3449 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:31:17 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3449 Hi Jennifer. I know that you have a lot of training and experience in this area, so I really appreciate it when you join the conversation (validation). Thanks! Hi Jennifer. I know that you have a lot of training and experience in this area, so I really appreciate it when you join the conversation (validation). Thanks!

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/who-needs-approval/comment-page-1/#comment-3448 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:25:45 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1966#comment-3448 Hi Shamelle. We naturally assign a higher value to the opinions and feedback of those people that we love and/or respect. On an emotional level their approval carries a lot of weight. Hi Shamelle. We naturally assign a higher value to the opinions and feedback of those people that we love and/or respect. On an emotional level their approval carries a lot of weight.

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