Comments on: Where Does Disappointment Come From? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/ Wisdom from Outside the Box Mon, 15 Mar 2010 06:53:19 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Is it Really a Bad Thing to be Judgmental? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-4948 Is it Really a Bad Thing to be Judgmental? Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:22:33 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-4948 [...] via RSS feed or email . Related Articles: How to Expect the Best How to Calm Your Inner Critic Where Does Disappointment Come From? Who Is Really In Control Around Here? Where’s Your Focus? Gas Station Wisdom From a Modern Day [...] [...] via RSS feed or email . Related Articles: How to Expect the Best How to Calm Your Inner Critic Where Does Disappointment Come From? Who Is Really In Control Around Here? Where’s Your Focus? Gas Station Wisdom From a Modern Day [...]

]]> By: What It Takes to Accomplish Your Dreams http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-4944 What It Takes to Accomplish Your Dreams Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:12:11 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-4944 [...] the challenge. . . Free updates via RSS feed or email . Related Articles: Trying versus Committing Where Does Disappointment Come From? What’s Standing in Your Way? When Lightning Strikes Make It Happen Now – 2009 Countdown [...] [...] the challenge. . . Free updates via RSS feed or email . Related Articles: Trying versus Committing Where Does Disappointment Come From? What’s Standing in Your Way? When Lightning Strikes Make It Happen Now – 2009 Countdown [...]

]]> By: LJ http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3324 LJ Mon, 15 Jun 2009 17:13:43 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3324 Expectations are pre-meditated resentments. I find that when I expect someone to act in some way, and they don't, I can be resentful (which is just another twist on disappointment, isn't it?) I can hope, and dream, but I can't be too attached to the results, which are out of my control. When I can let go of expectations, which is an attachment to the results, my life runs much smoother. .-= LJ´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/simpleproductivityblog/~3/E-tqGdxdApI/" rel="nofollow">Productivity For New Moms</a> =-. Expectations are pre-meditated resentments. I find that when I expect someone to act in some way, and they don’t, I can be resentful (which is just another twist on disappointment, isn’t it?)

I can hope, and dream, but I can’t be too attached to the results, which are out of my control.

When I can let go of expectations, which is an attachment to the results, my life runs much smoother.
LJ´s last blog ..Productivity For New Moms My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Dr. Jennifer Howard http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3254 Dr. Jennifer Howard Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:48:10 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3254 Yes Jonathan thanks for this great blog. As a psychotherapist, personal development expert and spiritual teacher, it seems that embracing, learning from and enjoying the journey is a key to happiness and an antidote to disappointment. I so agree that widening our vision by strengthening our ego enough allows for flexibility when difficulties strike. It’s living the old saying that if life gives you lemons make lemonade (would you like one sugar or two?). Dr. Jennifer Howard http://www.DrJenniferHoward.com Yes Jonathan thanks for this great blog. As a psychotherapist, personal development expert and spiritual teacher, it seems that embracing, learning from and enjoying the journey is a key to happiness and an antidote to disappointment. I so agree that widening our vision by strengthening our ego enough allows for flexibility when difficulties strike. It’s living the old saying that if life gives you lemons make lemonade (would you like one sugar or two?).

Dr. Jennifer Howard
http://www.DrJenniferHoward.com

]]> By: Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3247 Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:36:47 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3247 Hey Jonathan, great post! Disappointment does stem from within us as you said - our expectations. That doesn't mean we should stop having expectations though as you have pointed out - Continue to have expectations, but not become attached to them as hard truths. I have written a 4-part series on my blog on dealing disappointment before here, in case anyone is interested: http://embraceliving.net/blog/2009/01/why-disappointment-is-good/ <abbr><em>Celes | EmbraceLiving.Nets last blog post..<a href="http://embraceliving.net/blog/2009/06/cultivate-a-good-habits-in-21-days/" rel="nofollow">Cultivate a Good Habit in 21 Days</a></em></abbr> Hey Jonathan, great post! Disappointment does stem from within us as you said – our expectations. That doesn’t mean we should stop having expectations though as you have pointed out – Continue to have expectations, but not become attached to them as hard truths.

I have written a 4-part series on my blog on dealing disappointment before here, in case anyone is interested: http://embraceliving.net/blog/2009/01/why-disappointment-is-good/

Celes | EmbraceLiving.Nets last blog post..Cultivate a Good Habit in 21 Days

]]> By: Angela http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3169 Angela Thu, 04 Jun 2009 01:18:58 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3169 Hey, I live in Hawaii and I can tell you there are plenty of rainy days!! And other of life's disappointments hit just as they would anywhere else. I call it Surfing the Tao - going with the flow and turning the lemons into lemonade. It's a skill to hone to be sure. Thanks for the encouragement! <abbr><em>Angelas last blog post..<a href="http://surfingthetao.com/2009/05/18/zombies-food-security-and-little-shifts/" rel="nofollow">Zombies, Food Security and Little Shifts</a></em></abbr> Hey, I live in Hawaii and I can tell you there are plenty of rainy days!! And other of life’s disappointments hit just as they would anywhere else. I call it Surfing the Tao – going with the flow and turning the lemons into lemonade. It’s a skill to hone to be sure. Thanks for the encouragement!

Angelas last blog post..Zombies, Food Security and Little Shifts

]]> By: Kikolani http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3167 Kikolani Wed, 03 Jun 2009 20:44:48 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3167 Yes, it just takes great training and discipline. You have to be aware of your own thoughts and feelings well enough to know when you are even subconsciously disappointed in order to prevent getting down on yourself. ~ Kristi <abbr><em>Kikolanis last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/kikolani/~3/9kZ5XuokY8c/out-on-the-ballroom-floor.html" rel="nofollow">Out on the Ballroom Floor</a></em></abbr> Yes, it just takes great training and discipline. You have to be aware of your own thoughts and feelings well enough to know when you are even subconsciously disappointed in order to prevent getting down on yourself.

~ Kristi

Kikolanis last blog post..Out on the Ballroom Floor

]]> By: Mark Lewis http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3165 Mark Lewis Tue, 02 Jun 2009 23:04:20 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3165 Thank you for your support! Thank you for your support!

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3164 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 02 Jun 2009 21:06:04 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3164 Thanks Mark, I know this is a subject that you have thought about a lot and I am really glad you enjoyed the article. I appreciate your support very much. Vin mentioned some good examples in his comment. Readers, believe me when I say that Mark is another shining example of positive reframing. Would you like to <a href="http://takeonlifenow.com/the-story/" rel="nofollow">read Mark's amazing story</a>? Thanks Mark, I know this is a subject that you have thought about a lot and I am really glad you enjoyed the article. I appreciate your support very much. Vin mentioned some good examples in his comment. Readers, believe me when I say that Mark is another shining example of positive reframing. Would you like to read Mark’s amazing story?

]]> By: Mark Lewis http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/where-does-disappointment-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-3162 Mark Lewis Tue, 02 Jun 2009 17:04:28 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1899#comment-3162 I think this is one of my favorite articles you've ever written! This sums up what I'm all about. It's not about lowering expectations, it's about widening the parameters, as you suggest, to achieve that good feeling or excitement. And suggestions 2 and 3 are just as important. I have never read or thought about it more clearly. Thank you for putting this into words! <abbr><em>Mark Lewiss last blog post..<a href="http://takeonlifenow.com/blog/entry/getting-the-unexpected/" rel="nofollow">Getting the Unexpected</a></em></abbr> I think this is one of my favorite articles you’ve ever written! This sums up what I’m all about. It’s not about lowering expectations, it’s about widening the parameters, as you suggest, to achieve that good feeling or excitement. And suggestions 2 and 3 are just as important.

I have never read or thought about it more clearly. Thank you for putting this into words!

Mark Lewiss last blog post..Getting the Unexpected

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