What It Takes to Accomplish Your Dreams

by Jonathan on October 5, 2009

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Everyone has dreams they would like to see come true. How long would it take you to list three of your favorites? In fact, why not do that before we continue. Just write down three really important things that you would like to see become a reality in your life. Go ahead, I’ll wait!
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All set? OK, let’s see if we can’t get you a little closer to making those dreams happen. The first thing that needs to happen is, we need to change your perception about the things on your list. It’s good to have dreams, but by nature, dreams are not very tangible. So let’s begin by changing the label. What should we call them instead of dreams?
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How about calling them goals?
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Are you thinking: What’s the big deal, what difference does it make whether we call them dreams or goals? I’m glad you asked. Here’s one of the dictionary’s definitions for dream.

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…………….Dream - An idea or hope that is impractical
…………….or unlikely ever to be realized; idle hope.
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Now let’s look at the way the word goal is defined and see which one is the most appropriate label for the three things you wrote down.
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……………Goal – Something that somebody wants to
……………achieve or accomplish; something to aim for.
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Clearly, if the the three things on your list are to have any chance of becoming part of your reality, it would be better to refer to them as goals.
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Goals involve intention
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Unlike dreams, goals are something we aim for. That implies several things. The most important is, we intend to reach them. We have set our sights on them and they are now part of our focus. As a result, we become “goal-oriented.”
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Let’s go to the dictionary again and see what it has to say about being goal-oriented:
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……………Goal-oriented – Organized to achieve particular
……………goals: strongly motivated and highly organized
……………in achieving tasks that are specified in advance.
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At this point we have left the realm of “dreams” far behind. Having goals is a lot closer to reality than simply dreaming about something. Of course, there’s still a big difference between aiming at a goal, and actually achieving it.
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What else do we need?
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Our definition for goal-oriented mentioned being organized and motivated. These are vital elements of any successful attempt at achieving our goals. It also mentioned something that is specified in advance. Let’s elaborate on that aspect a little.
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The more refined and defined our goals are, the greater our chance of achieving them. It’s impossible to align your focus on something that is just a vague generality. Having a crystal clear vision of what we intend to accomplish gives us something to really focus on. Success requires that we take the time to clearly define our goals.
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It doesn’t stop there!
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There are several other necessary elements to setting and achieving goals. Here’s a sampling of things that will greatly increase your ability to turn dreams into reality.
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1) Determination. This is especially important with respect to big goals that will require considerable time and energy. One way to increase your determination is to…
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2) Break big goals into manageable stages. Smaller, “stepping stone goals” keep you from feeling overwhelmed. They also provide positive reinforcement and a sense of accomplishment along the way.
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3) Eliminate distractions. If your efforts are too diluted, it really won’t matter what else you do. When you are serious about achieving an important goal you need to push less important things out of the picture.
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4) Constantly evaluate your progress. To reach your target you must stay on course. That means checking you progress to make sure you are sill moving in the right direction. Your path will always be somewhat fluid, so keep your eye on the ball.
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5) Believe in yourself. Doubt is a waste of time and energy. Deal with doubts before you start working toward your goal, not after. Doubt is the opposite of determination and engaging in it will bring your progress to a standstill.
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6) Make a commitment. Every important goal will present you with challenges along the way. If you are not totally committed to success, those challenges could seem insurmountable. Making a total commitment to success will shrink those challenges down so you can climb over them.
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7) Make yourself accountable. Tell others what you intend to do so you will feel accountable. This can be very motivating for several reasons. The more accountability you feel, the more motivated you will become.
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You must take ACTION or nothing will happen!
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I am going to make this real easy. Take the list of goals you just made and go join my Make It Happen Now – 2009 Countdown Challenge. There are still 87 days left in this year and I want to see your dreams come true.
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You will accomplish amazing things once you get focused. I’m in this challenge up to my eyeballs, and I want us to do it together. So, grab your goals, click the link, and let’s blow all the obstacles out of are way.
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It’s time for action! Do yourself a favor and take the challenge.
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1 Karlil October 5, 2009 at 6:01 pm

To me, dreams are goals without a plan. Goals are in essence dream with a plan. The difference between a good plan and a bad one is in the level of details. I list is comprehensive Jonathan. The point that struck me the most would be #2. I love it.
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2 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 5, 2009 at 6:14 pm

Hi Nik, well said and I totally agree. As soon as we start planning we automatically begin to clarify and define. Having a plan is absoluetly vital to success.
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3 Stephen - Rat Race Trap October 5, 2009 at 7:14 pm

Hi Jonathan! Great work here. I’m so pumped by you being so pumped I’m trying to figure out what to do. I’m experimenting with being smooth and relaxed about my goals instead of pressured by them. I don’t know if it is going to work or not.
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4 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 5, 2009 at 7:54 pm

Hey Stephen, you bring up an interesting point. When I got the idea to do this Countdown Challenge I was feeling a little overwhelmed by everything I was already working on. But once I decided on my goals and made them public, I began to feel very calm. I have found myself moving methodically from one project to another, and feeling very at ease in the process.

I think maybe I got so focused that it made even big goals seem easy and manageable. I can’t promise that will happen for everybody, but it was very noticeable for me. Then again, it could be the Holosync effect kicking in. Raising your stress threshold is one of the ways it changes you perception.
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5 BunnygotBlog October 5, 2009 at 8:37 pm

Way to go, Jonathan!
This is a wonderfully inspiring article my friend. All the tips are right on!
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6 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 5, 2009 at 9:34 pm

Hi Bunny, you are always so supportive and I really appreciate your friendship. Thanks you.
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7 Steven Aitchison October 5, 2009 at 9:19 pm

Jonathan, you never cease to amaze me with your writing ability and the way it inspires me to do more with my life. I have 3 goals that I am actively working toward, and do you know what, I can almost touch them, they are that close. Thank You!
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8 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 5, 2009 at 9:32 pm

The thing I like about inspiration Steve is that it is so contagious. We have the great pleasure of interacting with highly motivated people, and we pass that motivation around like a wonderful personal development flu. I feel excited when others reach, or reach for, their goals. In other words. Thanks for the encouragement my inspiring friend.
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9 timethief October 5, 2009 at 10:01 pm

Karlil said it all. I begin with dreams and when I begin to visualize step by step achieving what I dream I simply fail to commit to actually setting goals, writing them down and developing a plan. That’s where your advice is going to serve me well. Rather that letting my dreams fade into the mist I need to commit to a process and you have provided one. Thank you.
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10 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 5, 2009 at 10:14 pm

Hi timethief, and thanks so much for joining the conversation. You can easily combine this process with your blogging. If you write your goals in an article, not only do they become clearer in your mind, but you also create accountability with your readers. That’s how I initially came up with the countdown challenge idea, and now there is a bunch of us giving mutual encouragement. It is truly a win-win situation.
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11 kate smedley October 5, 2009 at 11:13 pm

Some very wise words and excellent practical advice.

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12 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 6, 2009 at 8:32 am

Thanks Kate, I really appreciate your support.
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13 Vin - NaturalBias October 6, 2009 at 6:13 am

I’ve never been a big fan of having “dreams” and I think this article explains why. A dream seems too lofty, and as you pointed out with the definition, impractical. If I want something to happen, I make it a goal, and put forth my best effort to make it happen! Great article!
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14 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 6, 2009 at 8:41 am

Hi Vin, and thanks for your input. I guess a lot depends on whether our dreams are based in real possibility, or they are way out there in some fantasy world. For me, most of what I might consider a dream is really a goal that hasn’t been defined yet. But then again, I like to set some pretty lofty goals. As you pointed out, in the bigger picture it really comes down to the effort we are willing to put out. Big goals require a big effort.
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15 Tristan Lee October 6, 2009 at 7:19 am

Hey Jonathan. Thanks for these useful tips! I totally agree with you. It’s not just enough to have goals, but to become “goal-oriented.” This involves intention or the ability to determine what we want this moment, make a decision that we will get there, and take the actions required in order to get to there.

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16 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 6, 2009 at 8:45 am

Hi Tristan, the concept of being goal oriented really does make things a lot clearer. Having goals is not the same as being goal oriented, which is more of a mindset. Thanks for joining the conversation, I really appreciate your feedback.
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17 Positive Gangsta October 6, 2009 at 8:31 pm

Hey Jonathan, you tips are so useful it reminds me of a Brain Tracy audio tape.Haha Great set of pointers to keep people in the right direction. My advice to anyone who want to be posiitve is keep reading your blog because your tips are practical, simple and easy to read. Keep up the good work.
So jonathan keep it gangsta by all means, as long as its positive.
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18 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 6, 2009 at 9:27 pm

Hey Jonathan, thanks for the positive energy. I like to keep things simple and straight forward. There is already more than enough confusion in this old world.
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19 Nea | Self Improvement Saga October 7, 2009 at 9:18 pm

Number 7 works extremely well for competitive types. You might be okay with giving up or falling behind, but only if you’re the only one who knows it. In such cases, telling others is a great way to remain motivated.
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20 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 8, 2009 at 3:25 pm

Hi Nea, you got me! Yes, I am the competitive type with a twist, I only compete with myself. I like to push myself to new heights.
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21 Dragos Roua October 10, 2009 at 1:12 pm

Wonderful comparison between goals and dreams. A dream “might” happen, while a goal “will happen”, eventually. I really think this is a powerful mindset. And I’m sure you will have very spectacular things to share with us after the 90 days challenge. Really look forward to that. :-)
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22 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 10, 2009 at 4:22 pm

Hey Dragos, thanks for stopping by. You are a good example of someone who understands every aspect of how to set goals, and then work to turn them into reality. I appreciate the “will happen eventually” reference to goals. Since I started my 90 day challenge I’ve been bombarded with “other stuff” that needs my attention. Will this stop me from achieving my goals? Not at all. There may need to be a slight adjustment in my timetable, but I’m moving forward and that’s what really matters.
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23 Nea | Self Improvement Saga October 14, 2009 at 4:13 am

I never thought to check the literal definition of dreams v.s. goals. You know it makes so much sense and it really matches the way most people approach the two. I know that I’ve been guilty in the past of accepting that something would always be a dream for me. Because of that, it wasn’t a goal. With those definitions in mind, it’s another reminder to do more than just dream. Thanks a ton for this article.
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24 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 14, 2009 at 8:41 am

Hi Nea, it’s amazing how quickly we can adjust our thinking once we get a little dose of clarity. I often look thing up in the dictionary, even familiar terms like dreams and goals can take on a different flavor after getting Webster’s opinion. Thanks for your comment Nea, I really appreciate it.
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25 Dr. Jennifer Howard October 20, 2009 at 1:45 pm

Thanks Jonathan. It’s great to see how we can allow our dreams to guide us in creating our goals and make such big steps towards achievement. These seven steps, you listed, help so much in solidifying our ingredients for success in order to take action. Make it Happen Now is a great way to give all of us a deadline in the movement towards reaching our goals. I am sure the program you created will help us all make it happen now (no pun intended).

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26 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills October 20, 2009 at 2:19 pm

Hi Jennifer, I always feel a special sense of validation (or something close to it) when you join the conversation. Thanks for you encouragement and vote of confidence, it means a lot.
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27 Josue Cano January 10, 2010 at 9:47 pm

So dreams are things imagined that will most likely not happen while goals are things we aspire to and move forward to in achieving.

I’m choosing goals.
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28 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills January 10, 2010 at 9:56 pm

You got it brother, good choice!
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