Comments on: What Do You Think You Deserve?

By: Jack

Jack — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 16:22:52 +0000

Jonathan,

Thanks a lot. That really cleared things up for me. Hopefully I can use this time during the holidays being around the family and an already loving environment to try to practice these things. Have a merry christmas.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:29:40 +0000

Hi Jack, nice observations. Viewed with the right perspective I think the two ideas become just two aspects of one approach. We should allow ourselves to receive unconditionally (in other words, without feeling that we had to earn it, including love and approval). And, we should love ourselves unconditionally even if we feel that we still have some room for improvement. When we remove “conditional requirements” from loving ourselves and from allowing ourselves to receive good things into our lives (love, happiness, abundance, etc.), we essentially remove the obstacles that prevent us from receiving those things.

By: Jack

Jack — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:04:44 +0000

Jonathan,

You said “Try to free your mind of the idea that you can only receive what you think you deserve.” This is definitely different from the philosophy I have heard before (and some are mentioning here) that you should believe that you deserve the best, to love yourself etc…

It is my understanding that what you are saying is to unlink the connection between deserving and receiving. Do you think this is more powerful than allowing yourself to feel that you deserve to love yourself for no other reason than being you? After reading your article I get the feeling that you have great insight on the topic and I’m really interested on your opinion about the difference between these two separate ideas which both seem like they may work in their own ways.

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By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 22:39:28 +0000

For the last few years now, particularly the last few months, I’ve been wrapping myself around the idea of receiving “in proportion to your contributions” INSTEAD of receiving in proportion to “our capacity to receive”. I can’t say that I’ve chosen the latter school of thought over the former yet, in fact I recently caught myself thinking, “I want only as much love as I deserve, and so I want for nothing.” Which, according to my boyfriend, is flawed thinking..

But reading this article has helped me to organize my thoughts about what people deserve. Rather, what I deserve. But are ALL people so deserving? I am yet to be convinced. Still, thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 00:30:31 +0000

Thanks for this post, I’m a little late in reading it (from when it was posted) but it resonated with me simply because I’m constantly working to get out of my own way. I can be my biggest stumbling block and it’s difficult to change.
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By: Debbie @ Happy Maker

Debbie @ Happy Maker — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 21:17:55 +0000

This really tells it like it is. It is amazing what the mind can or can’t do for us, depending on our own thinking. I think there are a lot of people that get in there own way when it comes to getting what they really want or don’t want.
When it comes to God I always look at it this way. If a child ask his or her parent for a drink of water. Would the parent give them a rock instead? God works that way. He wants us to have what we need, but if we feel we don’t deserve it, it is like turning God down. We have to believe that we do deserve the best.