Comments on: Using Transference to Increase Self-Confidence http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/ Strategies for Positive Change Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:29:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ket http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-36754 ket Sun, 18 Dec 2011 08:24:28 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1824#comment-36754 Jonathan, this is a very clearly written article on an essential topic. Thank you for informing and educating so brilliantly. The transference of confidence from one area to another is really useful. I have used it recently without realising, to help me study (by comparing it to another time I successfully studied something else). I have also just caught myself using it to lower my confidence in an area that was similar to an area in which I know that I am weak (a certain type of dance and hip (in)flexibility). Do you have any guidance or suggestions to prevent us using the transference for negative purposes? I didn't mean to write off myself but I thought, "I have been unable to move it correctly for years, why succeed now?" This is clearly misuse of a valuable technique. Please advise! Jonathan, this is a very clearly written article on an essential topic. Thank you for informing and educating so brilliantly.

The transference of confidence from one area to another is really useful. I have used it recently without realising, to help me study (by comparing it to another time I successfully studied something else).

I have also just caught myself using it to lower my confidence in an area that was similar to an area in which I know that I am weak (a certain type of dance and hip (in)flexibility).

Do you have any guidance or suggestions to prevent us using the transference for negative purposes? I didn’t mean to write off myself but I thought, “I have been unable to move it correctly for years, why succeed now?” This is clearly misuse of a valuable technique. Please advise!

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]]> By: BradMorris http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-2998 BradMorris Sun, 24 May 2009 13:45:25 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1824#comment-2998 I'm glad you drew the distinction between self-esteem and self-confidence. Though the two terms have a great deal of practical interrelationship with the respect to new skill development, etc., they are two different concepts and things get far too muddy when people try to treat them synonymously! I’m glad you drew the distinction between self-esteem and self-confidence. Though the two terms have a great deal of practical interrelationship with the respect to new skill development, etc., they are two different concepts and things get far too muddy when people try to treat them synonymously!

]]> By: Annette Colby, PhD http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-2902 Annette Colby, PhD Mon, 18 May 2009 19:28:52 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1824#comment-2902 Hi Jonathan, Great article! Somewhere near the very bottom of your post you write, "To build unstoppable self-confidence means... building on smaller successes to create momentum." This is an excellent reminder that each step forward counts. If you want to overcome your difficulties, achieve your goals, and live a better life, then recognizing effort and success is the most powerful strategy you can implement. Yet, often we do not own our successes. We minimize our effort, attribute a success to luck, or fail to take credit for our persistence and hard work. By deciding to diminish or dismiss your role in creating small steps of positive change, you add to a sense of helplessness, hopelessness, or overwhelm concerning your life. You begin to believe that cannot have what you most want. Failing to recognize your efforts and successes leads to decreased motivation, lowered confidence or self-esteem, and a diminishing sense of hope about a triumphant outcome. Each small success is another step toward making a dream reality. Celebrate successes and positive qualities. By recognizing each effort and each success, we increase motivation to take the next step into the better life we desire and deserve. . <abbr><em>Annette Colby, PhDs last blog post..<a href="http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/05/01/when-are-you-going-to-live-right/" rel="nofollow">When Are You Going To Live Right?</a></em></abbr> Hi Jonathan,

Great article! Somewhere near the very bottom of your post you write,
“To build unstoppable self-confidence means… building on smaller successes to create momentum.” This is an excellent reminder that each step forward counts.

If you want to overcome your difficulties, achieve your goals, and live a better life, then recognizing effort and success is the most powerful strategy you can implement.

Yet, often we do not own our successes. We minimize our effort, attribute a success to luck, or fail to take credit for our persistence and hard work. By deciding to diminish or dismiss your role in creating small steps of positive change, you add to a sense of helplessness, hopelessness, or overwhelm concerning your life. You begin to believe that cannot have what you most want. Failing to recognize your efforts and successes leads to decreased motivation, lowered confidence or self-esteem, and a diminishing sense of hope about a triumphant outcome.

Each small success is another step toward making a dream reality. Celebrate successes and positive qualities. By recognizing each effort and each success, we increase motivation to take the next step into the better life we desire and deserve. .

Annette Colby, PhDs last blog post..When Are You Going To Live Right?

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-2879 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Sun, 17 May 2009 00:09:21 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1824#comment-2879 <strong>@Mark</strong><em>, you are absolutely correct. Having low self-esteem (low perception of self-worth) generally has some kind of a negative effect on a persons self-confidence. But it can manifest in unexpected ways. For example, a person may be competent and confident at their job with no evidence that they a lacking self-esteem. They may even be admired for their skills or abilities. Then, unexpectedly they will do something to sabotage their own success. Why? Because somewhere inside they don't think they deserve to be successful. So despite their abilities, their low evaluation of their own worthiness won't allow them to benefit from those abilities. Or, if they do allow success, they may feel guilty about it.</em> @Mark, you are absolutely correct. Having low self-esteem (low perception of self-worth) generally has some kind of a negative effect on a persons self-confidence. But it can manifest in unexpected ways. For example, a person may be competent and confident at their job with no evidence that they a lacking self-esteem. They may even be admired for their skills or abilities. Then, unexpectedly they will do something to sabotage their own success. Why? Because somewhere inside they don’t think they deserve to be successful. So despite their abilities, their low evaluation of their own worthiness won’t allow them to benefit from those abilities. Or, if they do allow success, they may feel guilty about it.

]]> By: Mark Lewis http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/using-transference-to-increase-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-2867 Mark Lewis Sat, 16 May 2009 03:07:34 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=1824#comment-2867 I too, enjoyed the definitions of self-confidence and self-esteem. While reading the article I couldn't help but think that this can be undermined by someone's perception of themselves and self-awareness. I'm interested to know your thoughts on this matter. Thanks! <abbr><em>Mark Lewiss last blog post..<a href="http://takeonlifenow.com/blog/entry/dont-give-to-the-beggers/" rel="nofollow">Don't Give to The Beggers</a></em></abbr> I too, enjoyed the definitions of self-confidence and self-esteem.

While reading the article I couldn’t help but think that this can be undermined by someone’s perception of themselves and self-awareness. I’m interested to know your thoughts on this matter.

Thanks!

Mark Lewiss last blog post..Don’t Give to The Beggers

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