6 Simple Steps for a Better Life Today

simple steps for a better life

Would you like to rearrange your current reality and start living a better life? Do you feel like you are ready to begin creating a better life by design? If so, then I would like to share six simple yet powerful steps that you can start taking today to create a better life for yourself in a relatively short time.

1. Focus on what you intend to manifest. A better life begins with focus. So, quit focusing on what is missing from your life. This includes what you don’t want to see happen. As soon as you become aware that you are focusing on what you don’t have, choose a different thought. Shift your focus to what you intend to attract and manifest in your life. Put yourself in a state of receiving and accepting and move away from the state of lacking or wanting.

2. Stop struggling. If you find yourself viewing your present circumstances as the reason why you can’t have what you want, stop thinking that way. Whatever difficulties you are currently facing, know they are only temporary and will last only as long as you continue to give them your attention. A better life means less struggle. If you move your attention away from your current difficulties and see your situation as a temporary stepping stone to a better life.

3. Live in the here and now. Focusing on the past will just program you for more of the same. If you find yourself thinking that this is how things have always been, you won’t be able to create a better life! Learn to notice the way your life changes every time you take positive actions. Acknowledge that your reality today is an improvement over yesterday because of the effort you have made. Celebrate your progress and you will be motivated to keep taking positive steps toward a better life.

4. Quit telling the same old stories. Stop sharing your worn out tales of woe with others. When you quit telling your dramatic story, you won’t have to live up to those stories anymore. Replaying those stories is the same as reliving them. It’s impossible to move forward when you’re always looking backward. Start talking about the positive things you a learning and doing to create a better life for yourself. This will reinforce your new direction and empower you for even more progress.

5. Do it for YOU! Don’t worry about what others expect of you, or think is best for you. Everyone has an opinion of how you should live your life. When you feel pressure to live up to someone else’s expectations, stop and consider whether or not their expectations are in harmony with yours, if not, do what’s best for you. You are creating your own version of a better life and you need to live accordingly.

6. Don’t create negative energy. Try to let go of making unqualified judgments. Don’t weigh yourself down by passing judgment on others, it’s a giant waste of energy. Passing judgment is a form of comparison that requires emotional involvement and usually ends up creating some degree of negative energy. Everyone is on their own path and we all get to decide our own direction.

There’s more “better life” power here than you might think

I know that on their own these six steps probably don’t seem significant enough to help you create a better life. That’s because they are designed to cause a subtle shift rather than a radical change in direction. But don’t underestimate the positive results that can come from a three degree shift in course.

If you were flying from New York to London and the pilot was just one degree off course the whole time, you would probably miss Europe altogether. Changing your life is often a case of making small adjustments that produce huge benefits in the long run. If you improve your life with small changes today you will start living a better life tomorrow.

Can these small changes really create a better life?
Do you see room for any of these simple steps in your life?
The lines are open!

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  1. Rocket Bunny June 3, 2011 Reply

    Wonderful advice with words to live by.
    I think we all get caught up in that safety net where everything is comfy cozy and familiar to us.This includes friendships that we cherish but hold you back from experiencing life to the fullest.
    When things feel to comfortable you need a change.Even with friends or significant others if there isn’t something new to bring to the table things become boring.

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Hi Bunny, I think there is room to continue enjoying the comfortable and familiar things in life and still have a steady stream of new experiences as part of the mix. For example, I’ve lived in the same place with the same wonderful person for a very long time and wouldn’t want it any other way. But during that time I (we) have reinvented ourselves many times. We both love to learn new things, do new things, and explore life. For us it’s a nice mix of comfort and adventure.

  2. Ricky June 3, 2011 Reply

    Great advice. I think people really underestimate the importance of #5. Like, people say it and repeat it but don’t really put it into action enough. Comparing ourselves to others I think is one of the biggest sources of unhappiness today, especially because the media, the internet, TV, movies, magazines, make it easier than ever to do.

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Greetings T. Agreed, trying to live up to the expectations of others while constantly comparing yourself to them is a sure recipe for disappointment. Much more productive to work on discovering your TRUE SELF first and then deciding where you want to go and who you want to become based on your own standards, values, passions, and goals. It’s great to want to please others or even emulate some of their finer qualities as long as you do it for the right reasons.

  3. Steve June 3, 2011 Reply

    Focus on what you want to manifest. This is probably one of the single best pieces of advice I’ve seen. One great way to shift our focus is to develop gratitude in our lives, both for what we have currently, and for what, by faith, we will accomplish in the future. Thanks for the great article, Jonathan!

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Hi Steve, I think one of the biggest challenges is to enjoy and be fully present in the NOW, while still holding a clear vision of the direction you want to move toward. This is where balance is really key and as you brought out, gratitude can help us with both of those.

  4. David Stevens June 3, 2011 Reply

    Hi Jonathan,
    Points 1-6…….agree with them all. Well said. Get your thoughts on course.
    be good to yourself

    • Jonathan January 11, 2013 Reply

      Hi David, certainly, our thoughts lay the path for our life. Where the go we will follow.

  5. Nea June 3, 2011 Reply

    I like what you said about no longer telling the same ole stories of woe. I definitely think we get more out of life by focusing on the “story” we’re creating now rather than dwelling on everything that’s gone wrong in the past. Great post!

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Hi Nea, I think of dwelling on the past like being fixated on your rearview mirror while you are driving your car. That mirror is for glancing at not driving with. Just thought of those old lyrics: “Keep your eyes on the road and your hands upon the wheel.” If we spend too much time looking back we can easily wreck our life.

  6. Sandra June 3, 2011 Reply

    Sage advice, Jonathan. I found this particular point especially interesting: “Passing judgment requires emotional involvement and this practice only creates negative energy.” I never thought of it in this way before. I think there is merit to this. At the same time, we also need to have ethics and be able to see clearly actions that are harmful. It’s a tricky balance in some ways!

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Hi Sandra, I love that word sage. Made me think of this story about Jimmy Gas Station Wisdom From a Modern Day Sage. On Judgement, we can and should judge the appropriateness or inappropriateness of actions. What we want to avoid, and where the emotional investment comes in, is judging the person. Granted, it is hard to separate the two sometimes, but it’s a healthy distinction to master.

  7. Riley June 4, 2011 Reply

    Well written Jonathan! I going to print this out and later in the day I’m going to further reflect on it with paper and pencil in hand. I want to capture this wisdom in a more permanent way than just reading a blog one time. Thanks

    • Jonathan June 4, 2011 Reply

      Hey Riley, now that’s the way to make personal application and doing that is so much more valuable than just thinking about a general concept. Excellent.

  8. marc June 5, 2011 Reply

    Great post Jonathan, I belief all 6 points are important and I even believe they are very strongly related. If there is a situation where I need to stop struggling, I can only do it by going deeper in the here and now with a positive energy or it will just come back .

    • Jonathan June 6, 2011 Reply

      Hi Marc, yes, they certainly are interrelated. In fact, all life is about synergy. Everything is interrelated, our thoughts, beliefs, mind, and body do not exist as isolated entities, and what affects one affects them all. They are actually different aspects of a synergistic whole.

  9. Denise T January 11, 2013 Reply

    Excellent post!

  10. martin w January 18, 2013 Reply

    This is excellent material ! How quickly we forget the basics. I’m coming up to 62 years and thinking its over. Putting up too many barriers to self fullfillment. Have to get my head back on. Thanks !

  11. Mary W. January 23, 2013 Reply

    Great article. #3 “Live in the here and now” seems like it ought to be easy enough to follow, but I have found that so many things that have happened in the past can affect your reactions to present living–even as hard as you try not to let them. Breaking the “rut” is key, I think, but hard to do sometimes. Any real and practical ways that you think are best? After all, so much of everyday life is “routine”…work, household responsibilities…etc. It was good to read your article and recognize…
    again, the need for a new perspective sometimes!

  12. Candy Z January 28, 2013 Reply

    hi, thank you for this article, really needed this these days:)
    recently I have became really unsure, unsocial and down. I am only a teenager but this has affected my relationship with others, participating in classes and others…I wish to be the old me that is alive, less fearful and confident. In most situations, I feel stressful.
    This article and also the negative thinking article have helped me a bit, thank you.

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