Relationships That Really Matter

be grateful for relationships that really matter

Here’s a short quiz:
1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remembers the headliners of yesterday.

These are not second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners. They may have captured our attention for a short time, but there is no lasting emotional value involved. There is nothing to be grateful for.

Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one:
1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school or life.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Was that easier?

The lesson: The people who make the biggest difference in our lives are the ones you should be grateful for because those are the ones that really matter. They touched your life in a way that has nothing to do with credentials, money awards. They made a lasting contribution to the quality of your life They are simply the ones that care the most.  Be grateful for that.

These are the relationships to be grateful for and thinking about this helps us to keep our relationship priorities in the right place. Forget about the rich and famous news-makers and be grateful for the people who matter.

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  1. Galen Pearl January 14, 2011 Reply

    The contrast between these two quizzes really puts priorities in clear focus. You don’t have to spell it out. The impact is immediate and powerful. Thank you!

  2. Dandy January 14, 2011 Reply

    Amen to that Jonathan!

  3. Daisey January 14, 2011 Reply

    Powerful, Jonathan ! Thank you.

    Wouldn’t it be interesting to see this expanded upon in one of those “famous people” – hollywood – magazines. I was flipping through one of these while waiting at the doctors today. How it amazes me what, IMHO, junk is printed and what people pay to read!! Since I have so many medical appointments I should try to remember to bring a good book or paper to write letters to those that do matter in my life.

    • Hi Daisey, when you see all those magazines you can’t help but think Who reads this stuff? But then you realize that they wouldn’t publish them if there weren’t tons of people ready to buy and devourer them.

  4. timethief January 14, 2011 Reply

    This is a beautfully written and very effective article that highlights which relationships really matter to us. I appreciated it. Thank you. :)

    • Hi T.T., it’s really nice to see you here and I’m so glad you enjoyed it. When I showed it to my wife she got right into answering the questions in the second quiz and I was hoping others would do the same thing.

  5. Sandra Lee January 14, 2011 Reply

    I like the short, punchy approach to this post. You really hit the ball home!

  6. Armen Shirvanian January 14, 2011 Reply

    Hey Jonathan.

    What a cool distinction you made here. This gets the message across to us because it is much easier to think of people for the second part here. The people we have to worry about are those we are connected to and know of and can work with. The people we don’t need to care about are most of the people we see on TV or hear about on the news or wherever else. They are not usually connected to us, so spending excess time on their details doesn’t make sense.

    There are life skills and then there are advanced life skills.

    • Thanks Armen, it’s amazing how many people get so mentally involved with these celebrities that they form an imaginary relationship with them. Guys even do this with their so called sports heroes. We all have real heroes in our lives and focusing on those is a much better use of energy.

      Your closing sentence got my attention, I love it.

  7. Shailender January 15, 2011 Reply

    Small post but still managed to touch the heart.

    Jonathan Great words….. The people who help us are important for us than any famous celebrity or personality.

    Really Love it. :D

    • Hi Shailender, If it touched your heart then I am a happy guy because that is always the goal, through the mind and into the heart.

  8. Amit Sodha January 15, 2011 Reply

    Jonathan, this is sensational! I love the simple contrast and it really made me think about the people closest to me who’ve really been there for me.

    Thank you!

    • Hi Amit, your response (thinking about those special people) was exactly what I was hoping for. Thanks for mentioning that.

  9. Alex Blackwell January 15, 2011 Reply

    Yes Jonathan!

    The people who matter most are the people we share the everyday things with!


  10. Persha January 15, 2011 Reply

    true indeed. It’s the people that made a difference in our lives that matter.

  11. Sibyl Chavis January 15, 2011 Reply

    Jonathan: What a great point and message. We really do have lasting memories of people who are special to us and can always remember how good they made us feel. These really are the relationships that matter the most. Thanks for the reminder and bringing this top of mind.

    • Hi Sibyl, in this crazy world those little reminders sure can help us keep our focus on what really matters. I sure appreciate them!

  12. Nea January 15, 2011 Reply

    I remember seeing those quizzes before and they always put things in perspective for me. What an awesome point!

  13. Chris January 16, 2011 Reply

    Wow Jonathan! This was a short but incredibly powerful lesson. I love the quiz technique to communicate the idea. You are right… the relationship is everything.

    • Hey Chris, this is probably the shortest post I have ever done. I am really glad that everyone seems to like it. Thanks for your comment Chris!

  14. Stuart January 16, 2011 Reply

    A short post with a powerful punch! It’s true though, those who care about us are more likely to be remembered.

    If they treat us well, we’ll remember it :-)

  15. Joi January 17, 2011 Reply

    Excellent! I was honestly racking my brain over the first quiz. Fortunately I realized that it was a prelude to a point before I pulled my hair out.

    Great article – a perfect way to start my Monday off!

    • Hi Joi, it’s great that the questions got you engaged. I couldn’t answer any of the questions in the first quiz either. That’s what made them such a perfect contrast to the second quiz.

  16. Matt Clark January 18, 2011 Reply

    I love this, who are the people that are important to us. What are we investing in them?

    • What a great question Matt. With regard to each of those important people we should be asking ourselves “What am I investing in them?” After all, they are important, right?

  17. Dr Anthony Ossei January 25, 2011 Reply

    This is a great lesson for all. Dont go out there looking for those who care, rather Go there and teach, spend quality time, coach and support the underpriviledge; console and provide a shoulder for the hurting; and appreciate and make people feel special.

  18. Jane July 16, 2011 Reply

    Wow, I knew that I am more important to myself than world affairs, but this really points out the imbalance between the two. I actually can’t answer a single one of the questions in the first batch.

    It is good to be aware of such things, thanks for the post.

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