Comments on: The Power of Pain and Pleasure Paradigms http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/ Strategies for Positive Change Thu, 24 May 2012 01:09:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Is Fear Holding You Back? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-31935 Is Fear Holding You Back? Fri, 18 Nov 2011 20:44:17 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-31935 [...] change, fear of commitment, or even fear of success.  Fear is the most powerful reason there is to move away from something.  When we harbor fear, we will do almost anything to avoid the situation associated with [...] [...] change, fear of commitment, or even fear of success.  Fear is the most powerful reason there is to move away from something.  When we harbor fear, we will do almost anything to avoid the situation associated with [...]

]]> By: 7 Strategies to help you overcome procrastination http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-24950 7 Strategies to help you overcome procrastination Wed, 24 Aug 2011 01:08:09 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-24950 [...] to lose if you don’t complete this task? How will your life be better when you do complete it? Pain and pleasure paradigms have a powerful influence on what actions we will take and what actions we will avoid [...] [...] to lose if you don’t complete this task? How will your life be better when you do complete it? Pain and pleasure paradigms have a powerful influence on what actions we will take and what actions we will avoid [...]

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23348 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:27:33 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23348 Hi beachmama, your husband sounds like a smart guy :) Staying in harmony with our core values and principles is vital for avoiding internal conflict (pain). Any pleasure that requires a compromise in this area is just pain wrapped up in an illusion. Hi beachmama, your husband sounds like a smart guy :) Staying in harmony with our core values and principles is vital for avoiding internal conflict (pain). Any pleasure that requires a compromise in this area is just pain wrapped up in an illusion.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23346 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:22:45 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23346 Hi Henry, that experience you are describing is one that is near and dear to me also. It can last a life time and learning is the spark that keeps the flame alive. Congratulations! Hi Henry, that experience you are describing is one that is near and dear to me also. It can last a life time and learning is the spark that keeps the flame alive. Congratulations!

]]> By: beachmama http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23299 beachmama Sat, 16 Jul 2011 02:40:59 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23299 Hello Jonathan! Just found you and subscribed to your RSS feed. Meaty subject, great post. My husband will often pop up with, "well, I guess you haven't suffered enough pain over this yet . . ." when I'm 'beating my head against the wall' over some difficult issue. I've even taken to repeating this to my teenage son when he's veering down (what I view as) the wrong path. What keeps me mostly in the 'pleasure' mode in life is principles and values. For example, I value health, fitness, and compassion more than I value food as gratification. I quit smoking over 25 years ago using the pain vs. pleasure paradigm. I watched my grandfather, a man I adored, suffer and die from emphysema. Shortly after his death I decided that I was done with smoking. I used the visualization of diseased lungs and a slow painful death to kick start my path and then moved to pleasurable rewards. It worked beautifully. I never looked back. I’m looking forward to reading more ~ thanks Jonathan! Hello Jonathan! Just found you and subscribed to your RSS feed.

Meaty subject, great post.

My husband will often pop up with, “well, I guess you haven’t suffered enough pain over this yet . . .” when I’m ‘beating my head against the wall’ over some difficult issue. I’ve even taken to repeating this to my teenage son when he’s veering down (what I view as) the wrong path.

What keeps me mostly in the ‘pleasure’ mode in life is principles and values. For example, I value health, fitness, and compassion more than I value food as gratification.

I quit smoking over 25 years ago using the pain vs. pleasure paradigm. I watched my grandfather, a man I adored, suffer and die from emphysema. Shortly after his death I decided that I was done with smoking. I used the visualization of diseased lungs and a slow painful death to kick start my path and then moved to pleasurable rewards. It worked beautifully. I never looked back.

I’m looking forward to reading more ~ thanks Jonathan!
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]]> By: henry http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23162 henry Wed, 13 Jul 2011 04:28:41 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23162 "Learning how to use our minds to harness the power of our emotions is an extremely powerful tool for anyone who wants to make positive changes in their life." This is a novel idea for my emerging self. Mentally, I am quickly moving from crawling to walking. There is a serendipitous confluence of new ideas finding there way into my consciousness lately. I feel like I am finally awakening. I can't get enough of this valuable information to apply in my life. Though it feels piecemeal, the pieces are certainly coming together. Thank you very much for sharing your experience and insight. “Learning how to use our minds to harness the power of our emotions is an extremely powerful tool for anyone who wants to make positive changes in their life.” This is a novel idea for my emerging self. Mentally, I am quickly moving from crawling to walking. There is a serendipitous confluence of new ideas finding there way into my consciousness lately. I feel like I am finally awakening. I can’t get enough of this valuable information to apply in my life. Though it feels piecemeal, the pieces are certainly coming together. Thank you very much for sharing your experience and insight.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23144 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 12 Jul 2011 22:12:40 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23144 Nicely put Andrew, you would think that it being a fundamental concept would translate into <em>widely practiced</em>. But if that were the case we probably wouldn't need life coaches and then I would have to find something else to do. Job security I guess! Nicely put Andrew, you would think that it being a fundamental concept would translate into widely practiced. But if that were the case we probably wouldn’t need life coaches and then I would have to find something else to do. Job security I guess!

]]> By: Andrew Olson http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/pleasure-pain-paradigms/#comment-23141 Andrew Olson Tue, 12 Jul 2011 19:30:26 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=20#comment-23141 Hey Jonathan, This is a fundamental concept for anyone who wants to create growth in their life. If you leave it to chance, you'll unconsciously default to immediate pleasure over pain. But when you can bring consciousness into the equation, you have so much more control and freedom to create valuable changes in your life. Great series so far! Hey Jonathan,
This is a fundamental concept for anyone who wants to create growth in their life. If you leave it to chance, you’ll unconsciously default to immediate pleasure over pain. But when you can bring consciousness into the equation, you have so much more control and freedom to create valuable changes in your life. Great series so far!

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