Use Questions as Personal Development Tools

use questions to empower yourself

Questions can be used in many ways to assist us in our personal development. Asking the right ones can help break down the emotional anchors of limiting beliefs. This is powerful because beliefs are not usually subject to logic, but questions can help break down that resistance.

Another important way that we can use questions for personal development has to do with how we focus. The mind loves to find answers to questions. Give your mind a question and it immediately goes to work trying to find you the answer. So, asking the right questions will encourage our mind to think in a positive direction. This means that our focus will also move in that same positive direction.

Personal development has everything to do with focus. We grow as a person in the same direction as our focus. If we focus on negative things, that will define our world. This is the opposite of personal development. But we can’t focus in two directions at once. This means that carefully constructed questions actually harness our attention and move it along the path of our choice. The video below will show you how to do that. It’s called…

Use Questions to Empower Yourself

Personal development follows focus

I hope you found this information helpful. With a little practice you’ll find that adding assumptions to your questions in this way will become almost second nature. Learning to make positive assumptions about the various situations in our life has a dramatic effect on our attitude, and our perception of life in general.

As we continually train our mind to focus in positive directions, the negative aspects of life fade into the background. It’s the classic half-full half-empty syndrome. When we are focused on possibility and opportunity our world responds accordingly. New opportunities will arise, and we will see possibility everywhere we look. This is the power of using questions as personal development tools.

Do you have a favorite assumption that you like to use?
Do you see the value of using questions this way?
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  1. Sid Savara April 3, 2010 Reply

    Hey Jonathan,

    Great video! Looks awesome

    I really like your point about being focused on opportunities – it’s something I’ve noticed in my own life, that whenever I’m focused on moving forward, things “just happen” to fall into place. I’m sure this is due at least in part to me paying attention to things around me that affect my goals and dreams, but who knows what else is at play ;)

    • Jonathan April 3, 2010 Reply

      Hey Sid, thanks so much for the encouragement. Our life really is the manifestation of our focus, and focusing on opportunity will naturally create more opportunity.

      You are absolutely right about the way paying more attention to the things around you helps you notice those opportunities.Which just emphasizes the power of focus. It can be right in front of us, but we won’t see it if we aren’t paying attention. Thanks for sharing your insight Sid.

  2. Jarrod April 3, 2010 Reply

    Questions do incredible things.

    I love it when I ask someone a question and it forces them to pause and think. I can literally see them generating new neurology, new possibilities and a new future.

    I find this coupled with a vision for your life and self awareness creates awesome things.

    • Jonathan April 3, 2010 Reply

      Hey Jarrod, that’s a perfect example of how questions grab hold of our focus and move it in the intended direction. We can do it to others, but we can also do it to ourselves. The mind loves finding answers to new questions.

  3. ZuzannaM April 3, 2010 Reply

    Hello Jonathan,

    Wonderful video with series of explanations why using questions it is easier to find the answer. This almost works as if one uses Google searching for answers.” The human brain works in a similar ways to a search engine.” I have enjoyed a lot your perfect explanation.

    Thank you,

    • Jonathan April 3, 2010 Reply

      Hi Zuzanna, I am really pleased that you enjoyed it. That’s a good metaphor for how our mind seeks answers to questions. As complicated as google’s programs are, they are really just an attempt to copy how our own minds work.

  4. Sandra Hendricks April 3, 2010 Reply

    I agree with you that our mind thrives on questions and sets out to find the answers! If we listen, we will hear ourselves think “I wonder…” By following our curiosity, we can destroy many of our worries. Satisfying our “wonders” helps us find what we are searching for.

    • Jonathan April 3, 2010 Reply

      Hi Sandra and welcome to Advanced Life Skills. That sense of curiosity and wonder are exactly what turns life into an adventure and fear of change into excitement. Thank you so much for bringing that out.

  5. Steven Aitchison April 3, 2010 Reply

    Hi Jonathan, I am loving your videos and I see the progression in them every time you do another one.

    I also loved the content in this one and think you have hit upon a wonderful personal development tool.

    Questions are also a wonderful way to discover another perspective in a situation e.g. If I were in her shoes how would I feel? If I was my son how would I feel? If that happened to me how would I feel?

    • Jonathan April 3, 2010 Reply

      Thanks Steve, it’s fun (and challenging) getting into the videos as you are well aware. That’s a great use of questions.

      A friend of mine sits down with his family once a week and everyone gets to express themselves openly without any repercussions. By asking questions about their feelings and concerns he has gained deep insight into how to be a better husband and dad.

      Some of his greatest insights have come from his 9 year old daughter speaking openly and honestly. There are so many ways questions can serve us.

  6. Lana April 4, 2010 Reply

    Jonathan, I love questions. I truly believe that asking the Right Questions can turn our lives around. The information you share is priceless! Your videos are getting better and better! Keep rocking!

    • Jonathan April 4, 2010 Reply

      Hi Lana, I have seen you ask some truly brilliant questions to move others and yourself in the desired direction. You set a wonderful example in this area and I totally appreciate it. Thanks for your encouragement.

  7. Stephen April 4, 2010 Reply

    Hi Jonathan, this was fantastic. There was so much good content in this video and it looked really good as well.

    I really appreciated your describing how focusing filters out everything else and how we can connect feelings and possibilities and so on. The built-in assumption that gets your mind searching for something positive and exciting. It was great. Well done and thanks for sharing it.

    • Jonathan April 4, 2010 Reply

      Wow Stephen, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate all the positive feedback. Doing videos is a whole new world for me and there is a lot to learn. I really enjoy public speaking and this is sort of related except the feedback from your audience is delayed. It sure is a lot easier to be spontaneous when your are talking rather than typing.

  8. Evelyn Lim April 4, 2010 Reply

    Most certainly, I agree on the use of questions. I have been using a lot of them myself for personal inner work and working on clients. The right questions can help to invite rather than pressurize us into making a needed shift.

    • Jonathan April 5, 2010 Reply

      Hi Evelyn, what a nice way to say it: “The right questions can help to invite rather than pressurize us into making a needed shift.” That is such an accurate observation and I am so glad you shared it.

  9. J.D. Meier April 5, 2010 Reply

    I lead a question-driven life.

    I’ve found that questions and re-framing are the most powerful tools for changing focus, gaining clarity, and turning insight into action.

    • Jonathan April 5, 2010 Reply

      Hey J.D., I am in total agreement with you. The whole scope of ways to use questions is huge and I only touched on one tiny aspect. Questions and re-framing seem to go hand in hand much of the time and I appreciate you connecting them for us in your comment.

  10. Eric Goldstein April 5, 2010 Reply

    Hey Jonathan,

    Great post! The mind is amazing. Just
    like you said, as we ask questions it goes to work immediately on it.

    Most people are running around all day asking questions unconsciously, and most of the time they are not quality questions.

    Quality questions = Quality answers

    Thanks for sharing value!

  11. Jonathan April 5, 2010 Reply

    Hi Eric and welcome to Advanced Life Skills. When you say “most people” are asking questions unconsciously it really is “most.”

    I think it’s been shown that only about 2% make any effort to consciously direct the way their minds perceive the world around them.

    This is really a shame since there are so many simple ways to improve our perception of reality and the energy we attract. You are so right about the quality of our questions. If we want better answers, we need to start asking better questions. It’s a powerful tool.

    I was just on your blog and loved it. I look forward to having a closer look very soon.

  12. Dragos Roua April 5, 2010 Reply

    Hey, Jonathan

    Congratulations on this video, it looks amazingly awesome. And I’m refraining myself here ;-)

    I think you just might discovered one of your best opportunities with this video: namely, to become a video blogger, rather than just a blogger. I think you got what it takes: clarity, attention to detail, good time management skills and a powerful message.

    As for the content, I really loved it. We’re asking questions to ourselves all the time anyway, so why not making this a conscious process? Why not taking charges of what questions we ask to ourselves?

    Thanks :-)

    • Jonathan April 6, 2010 Reply

      I gotta say Dragos, coming from you that is a huge compliment. As you know, I trust your instincts and highly esteem your opinion in the world of blogging. Your positive feedback on this video is extremely encouraging.

      I like doing videos because it’s a lot more spontaneous than writing. Much more like public speaking. Now I feel motivated to continue down this path and see where it leads.

      Thank you my friend, your input is always appreciated.

  13. Nea April 6, 2010 Reply

    I love the idea of using questions to aid our personal development tool; but I love this method because of the degree of understanding and insight that it enables. The more we understand, the more we grow as individuals. And the more we grow as individuals, the more the whole Universe benefits.

    • Jonathan April 7, 2010 Reply

      Well said Nea. Every question craves an answer and every answer should move us in some direction. Asking the right questions keeps us moving in the right direction.

  14. Richard April 25, 2010 Reply

    It’s all about the questions we ask ourselves. If we ask “why am I worthless?” you’ll get an answer. How can I be more awesome also gives an answer. Which is more useful?

  15. Rocket Bunny December 9, 2010 Reply

    I’m so happy I found this. I am a half filled gal. Once over the shock , I’m looking for the positive. I know it is there.

    • Jonathan February 8, 2011 Reply

      Hi Bunny, the good news is, as you said, your glass is already half full. That is the part to focus on!

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