Comments on: More Pleasure – Less Pain http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/ Strategies for Positive Change Thu, 24 May 2012 01:09:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23349 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:29:07 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23349 Hi Marc, refocus and reframe, two valuable life skills indeed. Hi Marc, refocus and reframe, two valuable life skills indeed.

]]> By: marc van der Linden http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23210 marc van der Linden Thu, 14 Jul 2011 06:24:22 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23210 You can shift from fear of the mind to the excitement of the heart with simply focusing on a pleasurable outcome. Once we understand that we have the choice. It is easy, but so important. Thanks for sharing this great post, Jonathan! You can shift from fear of the mind to the excitement of the heart with simply focusing on a pleasurable outcome. Once we understand that we have the choice.

It is easy, but so important.

Thanks for sharing this great post, Jonathan!
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]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23203 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 14 Jul 2011 00:29:24 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23203 I am glad to hear that it was just an example. I was a little concerned that you might be facing some big medical challenge. So glad to hear that's not the case! I am glad to hear that it was just an example. I was a little concerned that you might be facing some big medical challenge. So glad to hear that’s not the case!

]]> By: Evan http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23200 Evan Wed, 13 Jul 2011 23:45:45 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23200 Thanks for your reply. I chose the example of a medical procedure because what is involved can be well known in advance. Though I suppose the person may be unsure of whether they will cope with it. Thanks for your reply. I chose the example of a medical procedure because what is involved can be well known in advance. Though I suppose the person may be unsure of whether they will cope with it.
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]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23195 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 13 Jul 2011 22:24:35 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23195 What a great story Melody, once we experience that kind of personal control over those once fearful situations it opens a big door of possibility for conquering other limiting challenges in life. Go get 'em. What a great story Melody, once we experience that kind of personal control over those once fearful situations it opens a big door of possibility for conquering other limiting challenges in life. Go get ‘em.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23194 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 13 Jul 2011 22:19:36 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23194 That is an interesting example Evan, so let's take a closer look. Anytime a person goes through such a procedure, it is because they need some intervention to fix a big problem. The goal is to get rid of the problem so the future will be better than what they are dealing with in the present. The trick is to focus on how much better life will be without that medical problem. Is there fear involved? Absolutely, but mostly it is fear of the unknown. The actual discomfort (in most cases) is pretty short lived. It's the fear of "what if" that causes the majority of the anxiety and pain. In this case, working at conquering the fear will easy the pain and focusing on a healthier future will help us move toward pleasure. That is an interesting example Evan, so let’s take a closer look. Anytime a person goes through such a procedure, it is because they need some intervention to fix a big problem. The goal is to get rid of the problem so the future will be better than what they are dealing with in the present. The trick is to focus on how much better life will be without that medical problem. Is there fear involved? Absolutely, but mostly it is fear of the unknown. The actual discomfort (in most cases) is pretty short lived. It’s the fear of “what if” that causes the majority of the anxiety and pain. In this case, working at conquering the fear will easy the pain and focusing on a healthier future will help us move toward pleasure.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23193 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 13 Jul 2011 22:04:22 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23193 Hi Nancy, focus has a greater influence on attitude than just about any other factor. If the present moment is pleasurable then focus on it. If however, we are facing great challenges in the present, then focus on the horizon (old sailors trick). Hi Nancy, focus has a greater influence on attitude than just about any other factor. If the present moment is pleasurable then focus on it. If however, we are facing great challenges in the present, then focus on the horizon (old sailors trick).

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/more-pleasure-less-pain/#comment-23192 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 13 Jul 2011 21:58:36 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=21#comment-23192 Hi David, there is such a distinct difference between those goal oriented individuals who focus on the great results they are going to create and those whose quest for immediate comfort and gratification shackles them to a life devoid of adventure. My goal is always to balance living fully in the moment while my long term and short term goals guide my direction. Hi David, there is such a distinct difference between those goal oriented individuals who focus on the great results they are going to create and those whose quest for immediate comfort and gratification shackles them to a life devoid of adventure. My goal is always to balance living fully in the moment while my long term and short term goals guide my direction.

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