Comments on: Creating Your own Pain and Pleasure Paradigms

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 01:29:59 +0000

Hi Jonathan, I know we are going to have both, but I don’t think we should need pain to appreciate pleasure. On the other hand, those painful moments do kinda act like a system of checks and balances so we don’t take our blessings for granted. Gratitude can do the same thing without the pain if we maintain the attitude of gratitude.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 01:25:10 +0000

Hi Rachel, the two really do work together. Pleasure pulls us toward our goal and the desire to avoid pain pushes us from behind. If one weakens the other takes over.

By: David Stevens

David Stevens — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 01:10:07 +0000

I think you’ve got it worked out Jonathan.
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By: jonathanfigaro

jonathanfigaro — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 02:28:28 +0000

We all have ways to interpret this life. My thing is, As long as you are happy. I mean really happy with your life, who you are, and what you are accomplishing. Then, HEY, continue to live your life. Without pain we can never experience pleasure. What’s tears with out a smile? I think pain and pleasure is the paradox of life, we need both. Just make sure your smiling and laughing more than your crying and sobbing.

By: Rachel Lavern

Rachel Lavern — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 16:23:45 +0000

The title of this post caught my attention since I often find myself digging into what my clients consider pleasurable and painful. I believe that it is incredibly important for people to feel the pleasure of achieving their goals and dreams as well as the pain of not doing so. I remind them of this when they give me objections. I combine this with challenging them and holding them to a higher standard. It is good to ask them “How are you going to feel if you do not do this?” The key is not to tell them but to allow them to “feel it again” –both the pleasure and the pain!
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By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:16:43 +0000

Hi Galen, I agree totally, “age is a great counterweight to these external influences.” At least it is if we are paying attention. By the way, I would feel the same way if invited to Mardi Gras, definitely not my idea of a good time.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:12:58 +0000

Hi Stephen, some of those things we can limit our exposure to, others we need to control the level of influence. In the end, once we gain the awareness external influence only works if we allow it

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 05:08:16 +0000

Hi David, however and whenever we do it, you hit the nail on the head when you said “We must determine what is good for us or bad.” If we don’t then we are without standards and that is no place to be.