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Letting Go of Your Emotional Negativity

letting go of emotional negativity

We all have negative energy buried deep within us. On a subtle, mostly subconscious level, that energy is taking a emotional toll on everything we do. At the very least it is occupying space that could be filled with positive empowering energy.

There was a time when I focused exclusively on the positive, while neglecting to give due attention to getting rid of the negative emotional residue that had accumulated over time. This was partially because I wasn’t fully aware of its presence, and partly because I didn’t understand the implications of not dealing with it.

Where does negative emotional energy come from?

Throughout the course of our lives, we’ve all had experiences that were difficult and painful on a deep emotional level. These would be obvious sources of negative energy. We may even recognize that the trauma of those extreme experiences may have left us with some emotional scars. Naturally, finding a way to let go of the emotional residuals from those experiences would have lasting benefits.

What you may not realize is this, in addition to those more obvious sources, there are little things that you might be doing every day that generate equally damaging negative emotional and neurological side effects. Here are some possible candidates.

7 common generators of negative emotional energy

1. Viewing life through negative filters. Our perception creates our view of reality. If we see life through negative filters it will skew the way we experience everything. More specifically, it will amplify the negative and minimize the positive. On an emotional level we will generate and store that negative energy and, like small doses of poison, it will accumulate and destroy the quality of our life.

2. Being judgmental. This is a trap that is easy to fall into because we readily associate a person’s conduct with their personal identity.  The thing is, we all display different kinds of behavior at different times and there are a lot of variables involved. Stress not only eats away at our emotional resources, it also has a negative influence on the way we conduct ourselves and the way we respond to others. If we want others to give up the benefit of the doubt and resist the temptation to judge us, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same?

3. Assigning blame. Whose fault was it? Why do we ask that question? We usually ask it because we are looking for someone to take responsibility for something. We want to pin the blame on them so it doesn’t get pinned on us. Getting someone else to take the rap might leave us feeling like we dodged a bullet, but all we really did was release a flood of negative energy that will weaken our character and threatens our emotional balance. One of the best ways to empower ourselves is to simply accept responsibility.

4. Collecting negative emotions. Holding on to emotional negativity of any kind is like drinking poison. We all have pleasant and not so pleasant experiences. If we collect the memories and feelings attached to unpleasant experiences they will accumulate and eventually dominate our perception. If it was unpleasant, let it go and move on.

5. Making comparisons. This habit comes from a scarcity mindset that feeds on the idea of competition. The underlying premise here is that in order for someone to win, someone else must lose. Life is not a contest with other people. We should all strive to be the best possible version of ourselves because that is who we were meant to be. We’re all completely different so any comparison is just an irrelevant mind game. Let it go!

6. People pleasing. No matter who you are, some people will like you and some will not; some will agree with you and some will disagree. Don’t worry about it, and by all means, don’t keep changing yourself in an attempt to live up to the expectations of others. This will only create internal conflict and emotional confusion. Learn to connect with your true self and the rest will automatically sort itself out.

7. Playing the victim. Much like assigning blame, this one also goes hand-in-hand with not accepting personal responsibility for our life. If we see ourselves as a victim, then we are helpless to create positive changes. Helplessness is a negative, limiting mindset with potentially crippling emotional side effects. Accepting responsibility for your life is empowering because it puts you in control. Letting go of the victim mentality will eliminate huge amounts of emotional negativity from your life.

Letting go as a way of life

Recognizing the value of letting go of negative energy doesn’t help much if we don’t have the right life skills to actually do it. So, is there a way to stop creating negative energy and to eliminate the harmful emotional accumulation that is interfering with our ability to create the life we really want?

Some years ago I discovered an amazing skill called the Release Technique. Even though I wasn’t totally convinced that releasing would have the profound results they claimed it would, I gave it a try. All I can say is that the experience was absolutely transformational. From that point on, I never underestimated the damaging effects of negative emotional energy or the empowering benefits of letting go.

Do you ever feel weighed down by negativity?
Do you carry around any painful memories you’d like to release?
The lines are open!

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7 Comments

  1. Jason August 8, 2012 Reply

    I think understanding what causes; and being mindful of negative energy is the key to reducing it. Your list of 7 is great, anybody needing a boost should analyze each one.

    • Jonathan August 9, 2012 Reply

      Hi Jason, in addition to the causes that we can locate and understand, there is more. You see, every life trauma leaves its mark. Consequently, there is a negative energy accumulation that starts during infancy and continues throughout our life. Some of the contributors are so far in the past that we have only a subconscious memory of them. Sense we can’t go after them consciously, we need a technique that can eliminate them directly.

  2. Rachel September 12, 2012 Reply

    Where can I get the eraser ? Because all I have been trying all these years is (letting go) of the negative residue from a rape that happened at my workplace.

    • Jonathan September 13, 2012 Reply

      Hi Rachel, negative memories with that degree of emotional impact can be very challenging to get rid of. The Release Technique is the only way I know to make them disappear once and for all. I have seen it work for these situations many times and all I can say is that it is absolutely astounding to watch as someone has that weight lifted off them.

  3. felicia August 10, 2014 Reply

    What is the release technique

    • Jonathan August 10, 2014 Reply

      Hi Felicia, just click the link to learn more about the release technique.

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