Even if you are relatively happy with your life as it is now, know that a boost in self-confidence can make it dramatically more enjoyable and meaningful!
Believe it or not, many people have no clue how they ended up with low self-confidence. There are the more severe cases, of course; people who were abused or neglected while they were children. If you are one of those people, you can see obvious reasons for your lack of confidence. But what if you didn’t have an abusive or traumatic childhood?
How does an average, everyday sort of person end up with low self-confidence?
Most often, it’s the result of negative comments and attitudes by the important people in your life while you were growing up. Now, usually these people don’t intend to be cruel or hurtful. Most of the time they intend to be helpful by offering criticism or guidance, but their words sink into your subconscious mind and begin shaping your self-image.
Let’s look at a few examples:
· If your parents were very busy and distracted while you were growing up, you may not have received the attention you craved from them. Their busyness may have made you feel like you didn’t matter, that you weren’t worthy of the time they would have spent with you. They may have thought no such thing, but you could have interpreted it that way that caused you to feel unsure of yourself. Perhaps you started to believe that you were somehow lacking as a person.
· If your mother or father usually gave you attention only for the “bad” things you did – like scolding you for getting poor grades in school, or for making a mess in your bedroom, you internalized the things they said. If they didn’t balance those negative comments with more positive messages of love and praise, you’d likely begin to see yourself in a negative light.
· Maybe you were picked on by other kids in school for being “different” in some way, or laughed at whenever to tried to do something new. Such experiences can have a major effect on self-confidence – even if they were completely unfounded.
There are dozens of possible examples, but all of them have one thing in common: someone said negative or unflattering things to or about you, and you internalized them and began to believe them, at least subconsciously.
It’s important to point out that 99% of the time this is NOT done purposely. I don’t want to turn this into a blame game, because it really doesn’t matter what others did or said to you in the past. What’s important is what you choose to do about it NOW.PS. A lack of self-confidence can undermine our willingness to allow success into our lives. This can occur in any area from finances to personal relationships. When you sign up for “Sharing Life Skills” you will also receive a complimentary copy of “Accept Success and Nothing Less.” This is an in-depth 63 page guide that will empower you to confidently move toward the success you truly deserve.
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