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Is Your Life Satisfying or Disappointing?

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Do you ever feel that perhaps there is some vital element of your life missing? When you hear others talk about their deepest passions, do you look at your own life and wonder why you don’t have those same feelings?

When someone speaks of how they find their work, marriage, or daily activities incredibly meaningful and satisfying, do you ever feel shortchanged? Have you ever thought: “What are my deepest passions, and why doesn’t my life feel very satisfying and meaningful?” Have such questions ever left you wondering…

Is there something seriously wrong with me?

Rest assured, the vast majority of people wonder the very same thing in regard to one or more areas of their life. When we become aware of how other peoples life experience seems to be richer and more meaningful than ours, we can’t help wanting the same thing.

Deep down, we all know that life can and should be full of meaning and fulfillment. Then why is it that so few people actually find those things? Why does the richness of life seem to be missed by some, and fully experienced by others?

Could it be circumstances that make a meaningful life?

Is it because some people are just lucky enough to be born into a situation that makes it easy to have a richer life experience? Maybe they were raised by exceptionally loving and insightful parents. Perhaps they had a wise teacher or mentor who helped them unlock some kind of deeper understanding about life at a young age.

Certainly, any scenario similar to these could create an advantage. And obviously, this would not be an advantage that is shared by everyone. But when we interview people who are actually living lives full of meaning and passion, what do we find?

Very few had the advantage of favorable circumstances

In fact; many times they grew up in circumstances that were not advantageous at all. If anything, the exact opposite seems to be true. The personal history of many who are “successful at Life,” shows that circumstances of extreme disadvantage are often a part of their story.

As convenient as it might be to blame circumstances for our lot in life, I’m afraid that argument just won’t hold water. Well. If it’s not circumstances that make a meaningful life, then…

Maybe it’s genetics!

Even with very young children, we can easily see that some are more curious or determined than others. Is it possible that those are the qualities that translate into a more meaningful life in later years?

Again, what do we find by way of genetic characteristics when we examine the those who live lives of exceptional quality? Like any other cross section of people, we find a wide variety of personality traits. Some are introverts, and some are extroverts. There is no genetic pattern for a rich and meaningful life. In fact, being overly curious and determined can just as easily lead to a disappointing life as it can to a rewarding one.

If it’s not circumstances or genetics, then what is it?

Surely, there must be some common thread that is shared by people whose lives seem to be fuller and richer than the norm. There must be something that they are doing differently that accounts for their exceptional results.

Looking at their example, what can regular, everyday people do to raise the quality of their lives from disappointing, to passionate and fulfilling? This may help…

7 strategies to improve your life experience!

1) Take full responsibility for your reality. Forget about your circumstances and genetics. While you’re at it, forget about your past, your finances, your physical limitations, or anything else that can be used as an excuse. If you are making excuses then you have the mindset of a helpless victim. Take responsibility and you can take control.

2) Connect the dots. Your life experience today is the result of the thoughts, actions, and decisions you have made along the way. Figure out what those were, and change whatever isn’t working. If you want different results, you need to change the way you think, act, and decide. Doing the same thing over and over again will not produce new results.

3) Figure out who you really are. Your life will never be fulfilling until you know who you are on a core level. Pursuing someone else’s dreams will not bring you satisfaction. Living by someone else’s standards will not bring you inner peace. Self-discovery is fundamental to improving the quality of your life experience.

4) Discover your deepest passions. We all have passions, but often they have been buried by years of doing what we are supposed to do rather than what we want to do. There is nothing wrong with doing what needs to be done. However, over time it does tend to push our passions into the background. You need to reconnect with your personal passions.

5) Forget about the concept of scarcity. This concept only exists in your mind, and it acts as a restraint in every aspect of your life. Life is abundant by nature, stop placing self-imposed limits on what you think you can accomplish or experience. There is more than enough opportunity available to you. Stop limiting yourself.

6) Learn the life skills that will produce your desired results. If your old skills haven’t produced the quality of life you want, then obviously, you need to learn new skills. There are proven strategies and techniques for everything, including a more rewarding life. Whatever you want from your life experience, there are skills to help you get it. Learn those skills.

7) Take action every day. Life is not about what you know or what you have. Your life is the result of what you do. Once you have done the first six things on this list, you must take action. Knowing what to do will not change anything. Only action produces results. If you don’t produce your intended result, make an adjustment and take more action.

Of all the factors that differentiate those with a rewarding and meaningful life from those with a disappointing one, the ability to take consistent action in the direction of their goals is primary. Knowledge that is not followed by action is just useless data. Take action every day.

Does all this seem like a tall order?

Even if it does, aren’t you worth it? This is another important quality of those whose lives seems extraordinary, they are willing to learn and do whatever it takes. They want a satisfying life enough to go after it. Is that how you feel? Are you ready to leave disappointment in the dust and join the minority of people who find life to be a wonderful and rewarding adventure?

If so, why not start today by working on the 7 strategies above. Your life can be whatever you want it to be, but it won’t happen unless you make it happen. Why not take action right now?

How important do you think taking action is?
What do you want to change in your life?
The lines are open!

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33 Comments

  1. Frank J July 13, 2009 Reply

    My life has been a roller coaster, but it made me a stronger person and a better person today.

    Great post Jonathan!

  2. Rocket Bunny July 13, 2009 Reply

    Hello Jonathan,
    There are many reasons why one picks their own path. Some adults could have been spoiled as a child and expected a joy ride from their parents. Others may had been raised with learning problems.
    There are a lot of motivated people who have become successful self made entrepreneurs,due to being poor and the above.
    I feel you can overcome anything as long as you believe in yourself and have faith.
    It is important to know what it is you want and not set limitations. Where there is a will there is a way. Anyone can accomplish anything they want.
    Your list is a great resource to where to start.
    As far as changing anything in my life, you should have asked this question, when I was 25 :) I am happy with my life, I wouldn’t change a thing.

    • Hi Bunny, yes there is a huge variety of reasons, circumstances, and situations that shape our perspective of life. It’s encouraging to know that regardless of those influences we still have a choice. We can become the strongest influence in our own life if we a willing to take action.

  3. Zuzanna M July 13, 2009 Reply

    Thank you Jonathan, for the wonderful Blog-There has been many hardships in my life. Those made me a stronger person. Life offers new advantages. It is like playing Chess, if one knows how make the right move he/she can avoid many consequences after all. I have learned to keep my eyes open on the situation I am. Monitor things that are positive as well as negative. Always shrived to eliminate to minimum the negatives. Also, believe that “when one door is closing there is another open.” Those who want to accomplish something in life they will be able to find a proper sources to do so. You have presented a very resourceful article.

    Thank you,
    Zuzanna

  4. Steven Aitchison July 13, 2009 Reply

    Hi Jonathan

    Another insightful post and one that took me right back to when I was about 20. I used to have all these thoughts about the purpose of my life and how I could empassion my life and then something happened that changed it all and I definitely have lived a passionate life from then on. My life has never been so good with a gorgeous wife and two great kids, my dream house, the works. Looking back on it I used all 7 of the strategies you mentioned above especially 1,3,5 and 7.

    • Hi Steve, thanks for sharing that with us.I think It’s also wonderful that you can use your knowledge and experience to help others.

  5. Mike King July 13, 2009 Reply

    Good points Jonathan. I think each person will experience there own turning point where these 7 become the norm for them to be exceptional from then on.

    • Good point Mike. When take consistent action, sooner or later that becomes our norm. Creating change is often just a matter of creating new patterns.

  6. Arswino July 14, 2009 Reply

    Hi, Jonathan.
    I’m agree with your thoughts, we must dare to take responsibility of our live, with no excuses. Above all, knowing is not enough, we must take action.
    Thanks for sharing this post. It was great. :)

  7. As you well know Jonathan, I’m a fan of your 7 simple steps. In regards to the take action step, one of my favorite quotes and one I just used in my latest article, is the following:

    “You may be intelligent enough to see a practical solution. Have you the nerve to follow it? If not, you might as well be stupid.” – David Seabury

    What profit a man if he knows what to do and doesn’t do it?

    Love your article!

  8. Brynn July 14, 2009 Reply

    Excellent post Jonathan. The most difficult thing for most people is finding out they have no-one to blame but themselves for their current situation. But once one can accept it, life can become limitless….

    • Yes Brynn, that can be a difficult pill to swallow. The amazing thing is that once we accept full responsibility we feel very liberated, and that’s empowering.

  9. Vin July 14, 2009 Reply

    Excellent advice, Jonathan! Living with passion and meaning is one of my favorite topics and I think it’s something that everyone should take time to think about on a regular basis.

    I think it’s also important to find a way to profit from your passions in a meaningful way so that you can support yourself by doing what you love and adding fulfillment to your life. The potential of purpose and passion are greatly compromised if you’re held back from pursing them 40+ hours every week.

    • Hey Vin, thanks for bringing that up. For some people there seems to be resistance to the idea of profiting from their passions. Maybe because when your passionate about what you do it doesn’t seem like work. Everybody needs to make a living, being passionate about what we do, and earning a living doing it is the ideal scenario.

  10. Celes July 14, 2009 Reply

    Hey Jon, another powerful post from you! How our life is like is how we perceive it to be. Someone who chooses to keep blaming others and the world for their ‘plights’ will find life miserable, compared to someone who takes on the inner locus of control. Your 7 strategies perfectly depicts someone who is proactive and takes ownership over his/her life.

  11. Robin Easton July 14, 2009 Reply

    Beautiful article, Jonathan. Like fresh air come into a fetid room. This is SO important because if we are not living with gusto and passion and a sense of adventure in our everyday lives we are not really living at all. We need to take risks, live a little bit on the edge where we push the envelope of the known, where we be silly, passionate and maybe even make (so called) mistakes, where we truly find out who we are through life experience. This is a REALLY good post. Can’t stress how important it is. Thank you my friend.

  12. Shamelle July 15, 2009 Reply

    Power question in the title…

    For me it has been a mixed bag of experiences. I whole heatedly agree with your 7 strategies, and more importantly the last one.
    We need to take action.. Just idling and complaining about the situation we are in will lead us no where.

    • Hi Shamelle, I totally agree with you, action is key. 29 year old multimillionaire internet marketer Russell Brunson likes to say “ready, fire, aim.” He says that people get so hung up analyzing that they never take action. If you know Giovanna, the full title of her blog is ” Imperfect Action is better than No Action.” Truly, action is key.

  13. George Serradinho July 17, 2009 Reply

    People change and create their own destiny. You need to know where you are headed and of course never forgetting where you came from.

    Some people talk about changing one day and never do it, they need to grab the bull by the horns and want it badly so to say.

  14. Cynthia July 17, 2009 Reply

    Nice article! Giving action steps really helps.

  15. Dragos Roua July 25, 2009 Reply

    Jonathan,

    As always, reading your articles is a real pleasure. I especially liked the set up for the final list: environment and natural limitations (as in “circumstances” and “genetics”) are some of the most popular excuses for not living to the full. As for the list, I am a huge fun and follower of the 7th principle: take action every day. Which comes to: “you’re the one who’s building your life. Every day”.

    Thanks for sharing :-)

  16. Elle April 16, 2013 Reply

    Nicely done Jonathan. I think once I knew I was responsible for my reality…it all began to make sense.

    Love Elle
    xoxo

  17. Solomano April 16, 2013 Reply

    Really a great post Jonathan. My life used to be hell. But we know everyone should not lose hope and should fight for their right to have a good better life. And if you are living a good life, then you too should help others to live a better life too.

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