Comments on: Is There Power in Failure? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/is-there-power-in-failure/ Strategies for Positive Change Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:29:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/is-there-power-in-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-16133 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 09 Feb 2011 23:40:52 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=190#comment-16133 Hi John, sounds like a real struggle my friend and I feel for you, but it is not a helpless situation, I promise you. Whether you realize it or not, our personal beliefs play a huge role in how we view our own life. Your estimation of your successes and failures will depend entirely on the framework of your personal belief system. If our efforts in the past have not produced the results we intended then several failed attempts can combine to form a limiting belief system. Is there a way to change an unwanted belief system? Yes and here’s why; while personal experiences contribute to our beliefs, we need to keep in mind that there is always more than one way to interpret any situation. We have the ability to decide what value we will assign to any experience in our life. Each of us has the capacity to view even a negative experience as something valuable. People often develop limiting beliefs because in the past they have been unable to achieve the results they wanted. When past efforts have led to pain instead of pleasure, it is easy to conclude that further efforts will just lead to more pain. This type of mindset creates a negative reinforcement loop. With each painful experience, fear increases, commitment decreases, and self-esteem is further eroded. Consequently, a lack of commitment produces disappointing results that reinforce the limiting belief. When this occurs in more than one area of our life, there is a danger that we may start viewing ourselves as destined to fail. Such a belief pattern is based on an exaggerated emotional reaction to the pain of disappointment. Chapter 6 of my book <a href="http://AdvancedLifeSkills.com/blog/true-self-amazon/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">TRUE SELF</a>is all about changing these limiting belief systems and replacing them with empowering ones. If you truly want to break this cycle of failure I urge you to get the book and work your way through all of the exercises in the first 6 chapters. I know it will help! Just in case you are wondering, the rest of the book is designed to move you progressively toward the achievement of success in every area of your life. Once you understand what it takes to succeed you will be able to apply these strategies and radically increase your results. With repetition, your successes will form a sound foundation for a new and empowering set of personal beliefs. Things may appear hopeless right now, and it’s easy to understand why you might feel that way. But please believe me when I say that you are not a failure and I can prove it if you will allow me. With the right knowledge and a little effort you can turn this lifelong cycle around and completely transform your life. Hi John, sounds like a real struggle my friend and I feel for you, but it is not a helpless situation, I promise you. Whether you realize it or not, our personal beliefs play a huge role in how we view our own life. Your estimation of your successes and failures will depend entirely on the framework of your personal belief system. If our efforts in the past have not produced the results we intended then several failed attempts can combine to form a limiting belief system.

Is there a way to change an unwanted belief system? Yes and here’s why; while personal experiences contribute to our beliefs, we need to keep in mind that there is always more than one way to interpret any situation. We have the ability to decide what value we will assign to any experience in our life. Each of us has the capacity to view even a negative experience as something valuable.

People often develop limiting beliefs because in the past they have been unable to achieve the results they wanted. When past efforts have led to pain instead of pleasure, it is easy to conclude that further efforts will just lead to more pain. This type of mindset creates a negative reinforcement loop. With each painful experience, fear increases, commitment decreases, and self-esteem is further eroded. Consequently, a lack of commitment produces disappointing results that reinforce the limiting belief.

When this occurs in more than one area of our life, there is a danger that we may start viewing ourselves as destined to fail. Such a belief pattern is based on an exaggerated emotional reaction to the pain of disappointment.

Chapter 6 of my book TRUE SELFis all about changing these limiting belief systems and replacing them with empowering ones. If you truly want to break this cycle of failure I urge you to get the book and work your way through all of the exercises in the first 6 chapters. I know it will help!

Just in case you are wondering, the rest of the book is designed to move you progressively toward the achievement of success in every area of your life. Once you understand what it takes to succeed you will be able to apply these strategies and radically increase your results. With repetition, your successes will form a sound foundation for a new and empowering set of personal beliefs.

Things may appear hopeless right now, and it’s easy to understand why you might feel that way. But please believe me when I say that you are not a failure and I can prove it if you will allow me. With the right knowledge and a little effort you can turn this lifelong cycle around and completely transform your life.

]]> By: John Wayne http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/is-there-power-in-failure/comment-page-1/#comment-2744 John Wayne Mon, 04 May 2009 16:28:26 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=190#comment-2744 I really am a failure. I don't want to be but, it's true. I was born dead; in retrospect it seems life was trying to get me out of the way from the start. I was physically and mentally abused as a child, severely. I tried to forget about it but now it seems my dad knew what I was all those years ago. I tried many jobs but nothing fit, I tried to go to college but couldn't get the money, even though I graduated #1 in high school. I tried the military; only the marines would take me. At the time, the air force wanted officers and I hadn't been to college. The army had a two year waiting list and I was living on the streets. I was to big for the Navy; I'm not fat at all, my shoulders are really wide. I'm built weird. In the Marines I fell from 15 feet and landed on something that fractured my back. Back to the streets for me. That was 25 years ago. Many jobs later I am now disabled from disease. I could never do anything right in life. You can't say that I gave up ; I just never had a success. I really am a failure. I don’t want to be but, it’s true. I was born dead; in retrospect it seems life was trying to get me out of the way from the start. I was physically and mentally abused as a child, severely. I tried to forget about it but now it seems my dad knew what I was all those years ago. I tried many jobs but nothing fit, I tried to go to college but couldn’t get the money, even though I graduated #1 in high school. I tried the military; only the marines would take me. At the time, the air force wanted officers and I hadn’t been to college.

The army had a two year waiting list and I was living on the streets. I was to big for the Navy; I’m not fat at all, my shoulders are really wide. I’m built weird. In the Marines I fell from 15 feet and landed on something that fractured my back. Back to the streets for me. That was 25 years ago. Many jobs later I am now disabled from disease. I could never do anything right in life. You can’t say that I gave up ; I just never had a success.

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