When confronted with some new opportunity or challenge, often the first thing we think of is “can I or can’t I do this?” Most of the time, what’s really being considered here is “do I have the ability to do this?”
To answer that question, your mind will first analyze what it thinks is required. Next, it will compare that information to the resources on hand and draw a conclusion.
Pursuing success
Deciding that we can do something might seem to suggest that we should go for it. After all, our chance for success appears to be very good, so, why not?
I have slipped into this kind of reasoning several times in my life, and it has taught me some interesting lessons about the two faces of success. These lessons have proved very valuable over the years and I hope you can benefit from them as well.
Multiplying success
I love the feeling of accomplishment that success brings. How about you? When your efforts pay off, does it make you want to raise the bar and do it again?
Without a doubt, some of the greatest successes in every field of human endeavor have been the result of this kind of approach. But knowing that success can be multiplied brings up an important question.
Is more success really the best choice?
Surprisingly, the pursuit of greater success can easily reach a point of diminishing returns.
The truth is, more is not always better, sometimes it’s just more! Even worse, when things get too far out of balance, more can actually become less. To avoid the downside of success, we should always consider…
How much is enough?
If you enjoy the health benefits of running 5 to 10 miles per week, does that mean that you would be better off running marathons?
Imagine that your business makes you a good income working 20 hours a week with only three employees. Does that mean that you should hire 20 more people and really grow your business?
I can’t answer those questions for you, but I can suggest that you carefully consider your personal definition of success.
What do you really want?
Do you want to be fit and healthy, or do you want to see how much punishment your body can take? Do you want a business that makes you a comfortable living with plenty of time for other activities, or do you want to join the Fortune 500?
I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with any of these choices. It’s entirely up to you. What I am saying is that everything comes with a cost. So before you set your sights on more, it’s a good idea to look at the trade offs involved.
It’s easy to get carried away!
I love to work out, but there was a time when I forgot why I went to the gym. Once I discovered that I had the ability to lift very heavy weights, I thought – why not go for it?
That was not a balanced approach and ultimately, it came with a price. The problem was, I forgot to consider the “other” possible consequences of that kind of physical stress. As a result of my shortsightedness, I suffered a number of unnecessary injuries during that period of time. Some of those injuries are still with me today as a painful reminder.
A similar thing happened back in 1999 and 2000. That’s when I foolishly went from being a casual stock market investor, to a full time stock market junkie. Another very expensive and painful lesson.
Keep your eye on the ball
As good as success feels, it’s way too easy to get caught up in the pursuit and lose your balance. Understanding what success means to you personally can save you a lot of needless pain and hardship.
What it all comes down to is this. Balance is one of the most advanced life skills you will ever learn. In almost every area of life, balance is the key to living a life you can truly enjoy. To stay balanced you need to see the big picture and make decisions based on what you truly want.
Make sure you maintain a clear picture of what success means to you and don’t get caught up in the “more is better” mindset. Sometimes, less is really more!
How important do you feel balance is?
Have you ever had too much of a good thing?
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Balance is important for becoming a completely successful person.
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Thanks Nimit, if we ignore balance then some form of correction will enter the picture. Everything is seeking balance.
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Great article Jonathan. Something it sounds like Dragos needed to read a few days before his lifehacker ‘hit’…

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Hey Mike, I think Dragos just hit one out of the park and had to hustle to keep up. Sometimes we just get caught off guard when our efforts manifest their intended result in a bigger way than we expected. I am planning for a similar result and hope to learn how to be better prepared from his experience. I admire his instinct and follow through.
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Great post, Jonathan!
Success is not the same thing as happiness! Stephen recently wrote about success and I responded with a quote that I think applies well here too.
“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”
As you said, less is often more!
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Vin, I totally agree. We naturally hope (or even expect) that success will translate into happiness, but they are not the same. If a little success didn’t make us happy, why would we think that more would? Vin, you are a straight shooter and I really appreciate that.
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Jonathan, this is a superb post.
I never actually looked at success this way until I read your words here, and as I was reading i was thinking ‘jeez, that’s what happened to me in my small business life’ and it totally tipped the balance and everything went, as I couldn’t fully focus on one thing.
I would add that it is possible to be the manager of success, whereby you hire people to grow success for you once you have become established in a particular field e.g. hire a manager to grow the business whilst you concentrate on the core of what made the business a success in the first place. However, as you said, it really depends on your definition of success.
Thanks Jonathan
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Hi Steve, not only is that possible, I actually feel that it is one of the keys to staying balanced while enjoying greater success. In many areas, like business, learning to delegate the non-essentials can help us maintain balance and still grow our success. Can we say 4 hour work week?
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Great point. If our ego is involved more is always better. More recognition, more stuff, more…more…more. That’s why it’s so important to define success individually.
I love your words about balance being one of the best skills we learn. I’ve always been one to work hard (grew up on a farm) and play hard.
I’ve learned to take out the “hard.” I’m at a stage in life where I have all of the time I want to have fun and enjoy life. At the same time my daughter quit her teaching job and now works for the airlines, so we can fly free. This allows me to visit my family and friends and new places quite frequently. I have to say there are times when my ego says…but what about those goals. You really need to focus on _______. And that’s where I know that my answer is…I have the opportunity for balance. Enough is enough!
It’s a personal thing and I think everyone has their own answer depending where they are at and what they want in life.
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Hi Tess,
Thanks for emphasizing the fact that “It’s a personal thing and I think everyone has their own answer depending where they are at and what they want in life.”
To me, it seems like we gain more appreciation for the things that create balance as we get a little older. Often, this is a lesson that grows from the relentless pursuit of more during our earlier years. There’s no teacher like experience!
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You touch on a very important point about success, ability and opportunity. Just because we’ve achieved some goal and have the ability and opportunity to take it higher doesn’t mean it’s right for us. There are some things that, once accomplished, are complete. We all have to decide for ourselves what success means.
When I was making the transition from owning my own business to going back to a job, I received three offers. I was really drawn to the one that offered the most challenge and would have required the most change in my life. At the time I had three of my four children still at home, was financially distressed and was separated from my husband. I would have had to relocate to a new city and start a new job position that hadn’t existed before.
I sought the advice of one of my old friends. After I laid out the pros and cons of all three job offers, she quietly said, “Maybe you don’t need another challenge right now.”
As soon as she said it I had clarity. While I always had gone after greater and bigger opportunities in the past, this was not what I needed to do at that time. I needed to get back to earning a decent living and get my personal life balanced again without having the added stress of moving and starting a job that would have required stretching my abilities.
I took the job for which I had the most skills and experience, that didn’t require a major move and as it turned out, paid the most. After the first year on that job I moved to the house I love and a neighborhood I adore. That was over 20 years ago, and once my life was balanced again, I explored many interests, activities and challenges. But doing that from the foundation of stability and harmony has made all the difference in the world.
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I’m guilty as hell for overexposing myself every time I hit success. In fact, I admit I didn’t find an effective way to manage this. Every time I’m riding a wave, I want a bigger wave. Forgetting the fact that every wave, after it got up, must go down. That’s natural.
At a mental level, I understand this. But deep in my core, I’m always thriving for success. It’s bad, I know. Alas, we’re not always into doing the right thing

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Hey Dragos,
I wouldn’t call it bad if it’s what’s working for you at this point. Seems like there are stages in life when we make certain things a priority by conscious choice. Then we create balance accordingly.
In my opinion, you are doing some amazing work right now and I know you are no where near the level of success you had in mind when you started down this path. Frankly, you’re an inspiration and I have no doubt that if the time comes, you’ll know when to say “that’s good enough.” Until then, enjoy the ride my friend.
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Hi Jonathan,
I LOVE this post. It is something that I feel is soooo important, especially in American culture. We’ve made “achieving” the goal as opposed to “living, contentment, peace and joy” that goal. I think when so many start out, their goal is to create a better life, one with more ease, more time to do what they love and so forth, but somewhere along that way they either become lost, or forget their original goal, or addicted to achieving, being seen, money, things, or whatever. Until all sight of the “reason” for doing, is lost.
I think this post is just thrilling. It is one of the MOST important you’ve ever done. It is a brave bold post because it speaks to what so many in my culture have forgotten, it speaks against the often mad rush to “have, do and be” MORE. It can be a fine line.
Thank you my friend.
Hugs,
Robin
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Thank you Robin for your kind words of support. It really means a lot to me. I think the success of leo babauta’s (of zenhabits) book “The Power of Less” speaks to a growing awareness of the futility of more, more, more. When we lose sight of our “reasons” life can’t help but get out of balance. While balance does require constant attention as we navigate the ebb and flow of life’s changing current, it is certainly worth the effort.
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Hello Jonathan, this is THE point for me anymore. I’ve become convinced that much of the time more is NOT better. More is more stress, more responsibility, more work, more emptiness, etc. So much of the time LESS is more. Thanks.
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Hey Stephen, the real skill (which you seem to have mastered) is to be able to analyze your personal response to “more” and then adjust accordingly. Too many people drive themselves crazy trying to live up to someone else’s definition of success. If it doesn’t contribute to your overall quality of life, then what’s the point? Life is too short to chase other people’s dreams. If it doesn’t serve us, we should let it go. Good work my friend.
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Hi Johnathan, great post here. I agree that success doesn’t always mean better. For example, if we keep acquiring material things like more and more cars, eventually the excitement will die down, and we’ll have to buy more in order to fulfill that same level of excitement. But if we focus more on the things that make us happy, even though they may be fewer, than it can bring us more success in terms of happiness which can be more valuable.
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Ho Jonathan, you brought up a very important topic. I completely understand what you are talking about. I’ve been in the situations you are talking about before and I do not feel too good about myself. The periods of time when I got carried away chasing my ambitions (I think that at a certain point you stop chasing success and give in to the power of your ambitions) didn’t bring anything good into my life.
I loved the fact that you didn’t set up any norms of what you should or should not do in order to feel comfortable with your success (and not enslaved by it.) Every person is so different and each of us has his/her own expectations in this world.
I have reached my current goal for success and I am not going anywhere else. I might change it in a couple of months or a couple of years, but right now I am absolutely in balance. It’s simple the best feeling of all.
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I think we need to know where the limit is. Too much success is just an excuse for not knowing what to do next or being greedy.
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Hi Jonathan,
Again very timely. I’ve been facing a very similar question with regards to my knee and my current training regime. It’s put me in a place where I do have to make a tough decision and those choices need to be made You’re so right about the cost trade off, there always is one, the cost of fame is loss of privacy, the cost of getting a big sports car is often worrying if it will still be there when you get back.
There’s always a cost so thanks for the reminder to weigh things up carefully!
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I totally agree Jonathan. It helps to get clear on why exactly you want what you want. If more money, why do you want more money? Feeling of security, confidence? What is the root emotion behind your desire and how you can reach that with less effort and sacrifice.
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