How Your Beliefs Create Your Reality part 4

how beliefs create reality part 4

If our beliefs create our reality, doesn’t that open up a whole world of possibilities? So, the next question we should be asking ourselves is: “What kind of reality have I created?”

Simply by asking that question we are actually accomplishing two important steps. First, we are acknowledging our creative ability, and at the same time, we are accepting responsibility for current reality.

Editors note: This is the forth in a five part series of articles about
How Your Beliefs Create Your Reality .
Here is a list of the subjects we are examining:
Part 1: What We Believe to Be True
Part 2: Your Internal Map of Reality
Part 3: Defending Your Beliefs
Part 4: Upgrading Your Beliefs

Part 5: Beyond the Map

In parts 1-3 of this series we examined several fundamental ways in which our beliefs influence our reality. One thing that should be abundantly clear by now is the fact that the quality of our life is a reflection of the quality of our beliefs about who we are, and what we are capable of.

Knowing that empowering beliefs create a desirable reality, and limiting beliefs do the opposite, is a good place to start. Obviously, the next step needs to be learning how to eliminate the beliefs that don’t serve us, and replace them with beliefs that do. Which brings us to…

Part 4: Upgrading Your Beliefs

There is an essential first step that must be taken before we can even think about upgrading our beliefs. Do you know what that step is? It’s simple really, we need to identify our current beliefs and figure out which ones need an upgrade.

On the surface, this sounds easy enough. But beliefs are shrouded in all kinds of confusing disguises. In fact, have you ever noticed that the word lie is at the center of the word belief? So, how do we get around the deceptive power of our limiting beliefs?

Look at the results!

The easiest way to identify our own limiting beliefs is to look at the results they produce. Any area in our life where we are producing good results is probably anchored to an empowering belief. Likewise, any area in our life that is plagued with unsatisfactory or frustrating results is likely anchored to a limiting belief.

The results we produce always reveal the underlying beliefs. Now it’s time to examine and list those areas, along with the beliefs and feelings that support them. These areas are currently emotional liabilities. They are the beliefs that limit you, and need to be changed.

Identifying your limiting beliefs

Apply the following 7 questions to every area of your life that leaves you feeling limited, incompetent, unqualified or afraid. Make a list that includes the unfulfilling activity, and the limiting belief associated with the negative feelings behind it.

1) What do you feel you are not very good at,
. . and why do you think that is so?

2) What areas of your life leave you feeling
. . incompetent or unqualified and why?

3) What new activity are you afraid to try,
. . but would like to? Why do you feel afraid?

4) What is your least favorite activity, and
. . why do you dislike it so much?

5) In what area do you want to improve,
. . and what do you feel is holding you back?

6) What do you avoid helping others with,
. . and why do you feel unable to help them?

7) When you want to make a good impression,
. . what do you try to hide, and why?

Dismantling these limiting beliefs

To begin dismantling your limiting beliefs, you need to link them to a painful, negative, emotional anchor. The more painful the anchor, the more effective it will be. Start by asking yourself some pointed questions about each belief such as:

1) What price have I paid because of believing this?
2) How is what I believe affecting me financially, physically and
. . emotionally?

3) Why did I get anchored in this limiting belief to begin with?

Continuing to question the validity and consequences of any limiting belief will expose a wide array of negative emotional anchors for those beliefs. Once they come to represent pain, it becomes much easier to move away from them and move toward more empowering beliefs.

Look for empowering replacements

Next, ask yourself a few simple questions.

1) What would I have to believe in order to succeed in this area of my life?
2)What would I have to do differently in order to produce the results I want?
3) Which of my existing, empowering beliefs can I apply to these areas of
. . my life?

As you answer these 3 questions, allow yourself to develop a sense of certainty that, by changing your beliefs, you will be able to produce positive results. Make a list of these new beliefs so you have them as a reference. Review this list often, especially if you find yourself slipping into a negative mindset.

Look for improved results

Adopting these new empowering beliefs will change the results you produce. In turn, being alert to those changes will help reinforce and validate your new beliefs. Soon, your new beliefs will be totally accepted into your subconscious and be reflected in your new internal map of reality.

I hope you are enjoying this series so far. In part 5, Beyond the Map, we are going to look at the amazing possibilities that exist at the next level of creating your reality.

Did you discover any hidden Limiting beliefs?
Do you agree that your beliefs create your reality?
The lines are open!

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  1. Akemi November 20, 2009 Reply

    Excellent series!
    Whether we call it the power of beliefs, our creative power, or the law of attraction, the bottom line is the same: we are creating according to our beliefs. See the life you have, and you know your beliefs.

    One of the great book about this is Gregg Braden’s new book “The Spontaneous Healing of Belief” I loved it.

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Hi Akemi, thanks for joining the conversation. We all have access to so much power through our beliefs, I am glad to see an increasing awareness in this area.

  2. Tim November 20, 2009 Reply

    Great article, Jonathan. It contains a myriad of memorable excerpts.

    What struck me the most was question # 3 from the “Look for empowering replacements” section:

    “Which of my existing, empowering beliefs can I apply to these areas of my life?”

    This is the type of question most people don’t see everyday and I really think that asking ourselves this can make a huge difference in our lives.

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Hi Tim, I appreciate you keen observations. In my book I walk the reader through a series of exercises to help identify both their empowering and limiting beliefs. The list of empowering beliefs that they come up with becomes a list of emotional assets. With some slight modifications, empowering beliefs that we already have can often be applied to other areas of our life. It’s a nice little shortcut for building up our entire belief system.

  3. Eduard November 21, 2009 Reply

    Hey Jonathan,

    I find that identifying limiting beliefs is a big challenge for most of us. We are so used to thinking certain things, it’s like we have a curtain pulled over our eyes. And even if these things we believe are not based in reality, do not make sense, we still believe in them. This is why I think a healthy dose of skepticism towards your own perceptions is healthy.

    Thank for the tips in this post, Eduard

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Hey Eduard, you are absolutely right. There is a simple process that can cut through that curtain and expose our limiting beliefs. It’s just a matter of following the steps. I lay the whole thing out in my book, 7 Simple Steps, so anyone can do it. Yes, it requires some effort, but those efforts pay very high dividends.

  4. Karlil November 21, 2009 Reply

    I must say I agree completely with Eduard. I think social conditioning have a lot to do with how we view things and how things are suppose to work. Even if they don’t actually make sense if you really think about it.

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Hi Nik, social conditioning is a biggie for sure. There are many factors that have a similar influence on our beliefs. The important thing is to figure out what our beliefs are, and which ones aren’t serving us. Once we have that information we can change those beliefs to ones that do serve us. This is one of those situations where the source of our beliefs is not that important, it’s what we do with them that really counts.

  5. Steven Aitchison November 21, 2009 Reply

    Jonathan, this has been a great series and I have loved every word of it.

    I believe that dismantling our limiting beliefs is possibly the hardest part to this process, however, totally believe it can be done, well I know it can be done. I have done it the hard way and wished there was a plan like this to make it easier. I believe if we work on each belief in turn we can achieve more amazing things in life.

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Hi Steve, thanks my friend, I appreciate your support. The dismantling part can occasionally be challenging for deeply rooted limiting beliefs. There are however, several very effective approaches that work amazingly well. I am reasonably certain that you probably incorporate some of them in your counseling. Sometimes, the difficulty stems from someones desire to hold onto those limiting beliefs, rather than take responsibility.

  6. Stephen November 21, 2009 Reply

    Hi Jonathan, this is a great series and I love it. Everyone just needs to get your home study course Find Your TRUE SELF and go through this whole process in more detail.

    • Jonathan November 21, 2009 Reply

      Thanks Stephen, I was wondering when someone would connect this to my book. As you already know, this is an area I am pretty passionate about. I truly appreciate your support my friend.

  7. Dragos Roua November 23, 2009 Reply

    Possibly the best series on beliefs ever written, Jonathan. I literally sipped every word of this one. Maybe because this is the place where everything happens, the whole changing process which gives the thrills of life. You made a great point in identifying the tools and actions you need in order to just grow. I’m going to use these. I really will.

    Thank you :)

    • Jonathan November 23, 2009 Reply

      Hey Dragos, thank you so much for your kind words and support. It really means a lot to me.

  8. Vin November 23, 2009 Reply

    Great article, Jonathan! I really like the idea of associating a limiting belief with a negative outcome. Without making the effort to do this, it’s too easy to embrace the comfort of avoiding difficult challenges.

    • Jonathan November 23, 2009 Reply

      Extremely well put Vin. Unless we actually look at the consequences of our limiting beliefs, and then anchor them to the negative outcomes they produce, we will have no reason to change. As you so eloquently phrased it, “it’s too easy to embrace the comfort of avoiding difficult challenges.”

  9. Tristan Lee November 23, 2009 Reply

    Thanks for this article. Whenever we face a change in our beliefs, we must be conscious on the limits that we place on ourselves. By asking ourselves why we feel this way, and getting a truthful answer, we can alter and shape those limits to be able to move towards creating a new reality for ourselves.

    • Jonathan November 23, 2009 Reply

      Hi Tristan, You touched on a key point when you said “getting a truthful answer.” This can be very difficult in some cases. That’s why I like to use a series of questions to coax those “honest answers” to the surface. Appreciate your insight Tristan.

  10. Robin Easton November 24, 2009 Reply

    Hi Jonathan, this is a very insightful and empowering articel. My experience has been that we can also un-anchor negative beliefs in another way. I don’t even call them negative beliefs, but beliefs that don’t wholly serve me. I have usually done this by anchoring into something absolutely positive or contrary to non-serving belief.

    I used to work with little kids who wanted to learn to play piano (mind I can’t read a note of music) . They had tried conventional lessons and felt they were total and compete failures at piano and could never learn because they had failed at traditional piano lessons. So their established relationship to the piano was one of deep failure.

    Once these kids came to me and I presented the piano as nothing more than something that made sounds, and then said, “Now, lets find the sounds that YOU like and we’ll learn to put them together.” It was almost instant that these kids — once presented with NO rules, anything goes, we’re here to explore, there are NO mistakes, and so forth — they immediately shed all previous beliefs about themselves and their relationship with the piano and music.

    They learned to transpose, compose and play the music they heard inside themselves. It was astounding. Given a totally free environment, one with NO judgment, no rules, they found their own music, the music we ALL have inside us. When I told them no one owned music, music was free and part of us, that chimpanzees were banging on hollow logs to communicate danger and excitement long before the piano came into existence….these kids were set free.

    So in that case there was no need to anchor the old non-serving belief into something negative, there wasn’t even a need to mention it. Even when they talked about it. I would simply tell them what “I” saw in them, which was ALL positive.

    Another example (which I may write about in my next post). When I was younger I had this almost unconscious mindset of living to 65 – 70 tops. It probably came from family, culture, friends parents, school and so on. Then one day I met a couple, husband in his 80s, wife in her 70s and they climbed icy mountains and canoed white water, hike miles and miles for days in the mountains and camped and traveled all over the world, riding camels and living with Aboriginals and spear fishing with them and on and on. Now THAT was all it took for me to INSTANTLY shed my non-serving belief that I would die at 65 – 70ish.LOL!! I said to that belief, “I’m outta here.” :) It totally lifted the lid for me. The sky was the limit and beyond.

    As I think about this I realize I tend to be just the opposite. Almost all my non-serving beliefs were shattered by something positive. I don’t know why this is and I will have to think more about it. Maybe it comes from the fact that I want freedom SOOOOO badly that it takes little to lift the lid for me. I have great faith in Life and the great swell of possibilities. Or maybe it is as you said, I have few beliefs. My experience is that anything is possible, just point me in the right direction. LOLOL!!!

    Aaah, Jonathan, it is ALWAYS a joy and I always see more of myself when I come here. Thank you much for that. Again, forgive the length of my comments. :)

    • Jonathan November 24, 2009 Reply

      Hi Robin, what a great story about the children and their music. When we are children, or have a childlike openness to possibility, our relationship with limiting beliefs is much less complicated. As such, those non-serving beliefs are not so deeply anchored in our emotional subconscious. There is a huge difference between something we have accepted intellectually, and something that is woven into the complex fabric of our deepest perceived truths.

      You are truly blessed to have been liberated from the burden of such beliefs. I too have very little attachment to beliefs that don’t serve me, naturally gravitating to the side of limitless possibility.

      Sadly, for many their beliefs hold them prisoner, often without their conscious awareness. In these situations, change must be preceded by a process of discovery, acceptance, and dismantling before they are free to move toward empowerment.

      Happily, once the deepest limiting beliefs have been dismantled, there is usually a quantum shift in the whole person. Like someone who has been freed from a dungeon. A liberation of thought and perception that is wonderful to witness.

  11. Lana November 26, 2009 Reply

    Wonderful post Jonathan, too often people are not even aware they have certain beliefs and you provided great questions to ask yourself to become more aware and ultimately to change the beliefs that don’t serve us.

    • Jonathan February 23, 2011 Reply

      Hi Lana, you are so right. Beliefs can be stealthy little influencers operating below our conscious radar and influencing our perception and decision making process.

  12. Steve June 15, 2010 Reply

    Jonathan, the bottom line for all of us is that we are the ones who limit ourselves. This is a priceless series: one that I will be referring my clients to, because it is so key to moving forward in our lives. Thanks for putting such great material together!

    • Jonathan February 23, 2011 Reply

      Hi Steve, that’s really it in a nut shell. We must take responsibility for the limits we impose on ourselves. That is the only way we can overcome them.

  13. Renes October 18, 2011 Reply

    Jonathan, thank you for the series. I have been reading many self empowering books and all of the resources are extremely valuable for personal growth. The one thing I found most difficult was overcoming my hidden belief system, even though I would on many occasions tell my wife that my outer circumstances were the result of the thoughts I generated in my mind. Out of desperation to overcome this brick wall, I discovered your web-site. Thank you for your efforts in helping others find new beginnings.

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