Comments on: How to Stay Positive Even When You’re Surrounded by Bad News http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/ Strategies for Positive Change Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:29:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: How Do Appreciation and Gratitude Affect Your Life? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-26154 How Do Appreciation and Gratitude Affect Your Life? Tue, 20 Sep 2011 14:41:27 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-26154 [...] When you are having a hard day, make a gratitude list. We all have those challenging days from time to time. During those difficult days it can be hard to maintain a positive outlook. One [...] [...] When you are having a hard day, make a gratitude list. We all have those challenging days from time to time. During those difficult days it can be hard to maintain a positive outlook. One [...]

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]]> By: Karen http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18818 Karen Tue, 22 Mar 2011 15:52:43 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18818 Thank you so much Jonathon for taking the time to give me really wonderful advice. Yes, there does appear to be plenty of unbalanced people running free! And yes, Michelle was very loving. I like it on here - love is so much better than negativity! xx Thank you so much Jonathon for taking the time to give me really wonderful advice. Yes, there does appear to be plenty of unbalanced people running free!

And yes, Michelle was very loving. I like it on here – love is so much better than negativity! xx
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]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18802 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:54:48 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18802 One more thought Karen. Even though it his difficult to understand, there are those who are always looking for someone to blame. If they decide to aim their poison arrows at you it's not because you've done anything to deserve it. If you go to a place where unbalanced people are being institutionalized all you can feel is sad for their situation. If they insulted you, you wouldn't take it personally because you would make allowances for their condition. Well, there are plenty of unbalanced people running free. You can try to extent them the same consideration, and then block them so you don't have to put up with needless abuse. PS. Michelle, how kind and loving your response to Karen was. Thank you! One more thought Karen. Even though it his difficult to understand, there are those who are always looking for someone to blame. If they decide to aim their poison arrows at you it’s not because you’ve done anything to deserve it. If you go to a place where unbalanced people are being institutionalized all you can feel is sad for their situation. If they insulted you, you wouldn’t take it personally because you would make allowances for their condition. Well, there are plenty of unbalanced people running free. You can try to extent them the same consideration, and then block them so you don’t have to put up with needless abuse.

PS. Michelle, how kind and loving your response to Karen was. Thank you!

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18801 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:38:37 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18801 Hi Karen, it is easy to let our thoughts go in that direction because we feel the suffering of others and it hurts. That is compassion and it is a beautiful thing. Here's a little example that might help. We all experience illness from time to time, but some people struggle with it constantly and to a much greater degree. Our hearts go out to those people and we would like to help somehow, but we also know that our being ill would not eliminate or even ease their suffering. How much better to be grateful and appreciative for our health (or advantageous situation) while looking for ways to encourage those who are facing challenges. If some day the roles were reversed, think how much we would appreciate their kindness. Hi Karen, it is easy to let our thoughts go in that direction because we feel the suffering of others and it hurts. That is compassion and it is a beautiful thing. Here’s a little example that might help. We all experience illness from time to time, but some people struggle with it constantly and to a much greater degree. Our hearts go out to those people and we would like to help somehow, but we also know that our being ill would not eliminate or even ease their suffering. How much better to be grateful and appreciative for our health (or advantageous situation) while looking for ways to encourage those who are facing challenges. If some day the roles were reversed, think how much we would appreciate their kindness.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18800 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:28:40 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18800 Stephen, you know I just love it when you talk on this level. To be honest, I had to look up "availability heuristic." I really appreciated this definition: "Availability is a cognitive heuristic in which a decision maker relies upon knowledge that is readily available rather than examine other alternatives or procedures." I thought it went well with the rest of your comment. One thing that has helped me maintain a positive attitude over the years is the fact that we NEVER watch the news (in fact we haven't watched any form of network programming for about 28 years). Stephen, you know I just love it when you talk on this level. To be honest, I had to look up “availability heuristic.” I really appreciated this definition: “Availability is a cognitive heuristic in which a decision maker relies upon knowledge that is readily available rather than examine other alternatives or procedures.” I thought it went well with the rest of your comment. One thing that has helped me maintain a positive attitude over the years is the fact that we NEVER watch the news (in fact we haven’t watched any form of network programming for about 28 years).

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18799 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:21:16 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18799 Hi Robin, how ironic is the idea that we could "be our own jailer" and also be the only person with a key to our cell? And yet, that really is the case! Sounds like you and Stephen have adopted a very empowering daily habit. That is so awesome. What a great habit to share with all of us, thanks for that. Hi Robin, how ironic is the idea that we could “be our own jailer” and also be the only person with a key to our cell? And yet, that really is the case!

Sounds like you and Stephen have adopted a very empowering daily habit. That is so awesome. What a great habit to share with all of us, thanks for that.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/how-to-stay-positive-even-when-you%e2%80%99re-surrounded-by-bad-news/comment-page-1/#comment-18798 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:15:35 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=584#comment-18798 Hi Steve, the concept of accepting responsibility for, well everything really, is not a very popular notion. Many think of responsibility as confining and thus avoid it. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Taking full responsibility is liberating because it allows us to exercise maximum control over our perception of life without wasting time looking for someone or something to blame. Hi Steve, the concept of accepting responsibility for, well everything really, is not a very popular notion. Many think of responsibility as confining and thus avoid it. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Taking full responsibility is liberating because it allows us to exercise maximum control over our perception of life without wasting time looking for someone or something to blame.

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