Comments on: How Beliefs affect Self-Esteem

By: Personal Development Using Questions

Personal Development Using Questions — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 23:32:51 +0000

[...] right ones can help break down the emotional anchors of limiting beliefs. This is powerful because beliefs are not usually subject to logic, but questions can help break down that [...]

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 20:41:23 +0000

Hi Tammy and welcome to Advanced Life Skills. I think one of the greatest threats of limiting beliefs is the fact that they usually operate under the radar of our conscious awareness. Because of this, we look for other ways to explain our behavior. The process of discovering our limiting beliefs, bringing them out into the open, and then dismantling them is one of the most empowering things we can do. I know it sounds abstract for most people, but again, that's because they are unaware of their existence. That's really what the first part of TRUE SELF is all about.

By: Tammy Matthews

Tammy Matthews — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 19:18:08 +0000

Jonathan,
I so agree with this. Your past situations and their outcomes determine who you feel you are and what you feel you’re worth.
If things have gone badly you decide that the pain is not worth even trying.
If things have gone well we have the strength to stand back up, dust ourselves off and try again.
If we can learn to let go of those limiting beliefs we can open a whole new world of life for ourselves.
Tammy
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By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 18:49:12 +0000

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By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 18:32:44 +0000

Hi Galen, so sorry about your mom’s challenge. Your comment reminded me of that two sided coin with fear of failure on one side and fear of success on the other. Both can be paralyzing!

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 18:29:48 +0000

Too right Steve, and yet, understanding our intrinsic value analytically is not the same as accepting it emotionally. The emotional anchors that link accomplishment to worth are often established in childhood long before we have the ability to distinguish between the two or understand there relationship to one another. That’s where knowing how to dismantle those limiting beliefs comes in.

By: John Duffield

John Duffield — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 12:01:32 +0000

Good morning Jonathan. With your permission, I’d like to tell a “Self esteem” story. It starts by asking yourself a question. Here it is. Is the life of a rabbit’s tail worth less than the life of his ears? Go ahead. Ask it. Nobody’s watching. And the answer? It’s a nonsense question, because there aren’t two individual, separate lives there to judge. There’s only ONE life there, and it’s Mr. bunny’s. If you think the life of his ears is worth more than the life of his tail….think again. It’s the same life. Right? Exactly. Okay, but now imagine you and I and everyone else were really different parts of one whole. I’m like the tail and you’re like the ears and others are different parts. We all share ONE life just like the rabbit’s parts do. Is my life worth more than yours? Is someone else’s life worth less than yours? Of course not. Each of us MUST “esteem our lives” exactly the same…..because there’s only ONE life….and it’s ours. Put another way, you and I have the same human worth as the richest, smartest, most accomplished person on the planet. Stop and think about that for a moment. If that was true, you’d always have the highest possible self-esteem. You’d never feel bad about being smaller or poorer or less capable than anyone…..ever. Same for everybody too. Gee. It’d sure be nice if the world was like that. But it isn’t. Is it? It is. And anyone can be taught to see this Truth as well. Yes it takes time and effort to pull back the veil and see it. Even so, it’s there for all of us right now. But that’s another story for another day. Ciao Jonathan. John Duffield
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By: Galen Pearl

Galen Pearl — Wed, 16 Mar 2011 21:25:47 +0000

My mother struggled with feelings of unworthiness all her life. That was so sad. Your post reminded me of a passage from A Course in Miracles. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” An interesting, different perspective. Thanks for a thoughtful post.
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