Giving is one of the greatest sources of joy and satisfaction known to humankind. Have you ever wondered why that is? For some reason there seems to be an undeniable connection between our own happiness and our willingness to contribute to others?
We are in fact actually hardwired with this connection. Giving on any level just naturally makes us feel good inside. Case in point, have you ever met a philanthropist who was sad or depressed? And why do you suppose that volunteers often seem to enjoy their work more than some who get paid for doing the same thing?
Developing your inner philanthropist
A person who practices philanthropy doesn’t ask “What’s in it for me?” Instead of selfish pursuits, they are more concerned with making a positive difference in someone else’s life. They are happy because happiness is a byproduct of giving from the heart.
If we buy into the idea that happiness can be pursued directly through a selfish “What’s in it for me?” mentality, we will come up short every time. Oh, we may get some pleasure from the things we acquire, but that deep sense of satisfaction we are looking for will continue to elude us.
Cultivate the desire to contribute
Contrary to popular opinion; the rewards of selfish pursuits are extremely limited and empty. We all have a need to serve a greater cause than ‘self,’ whether we are aware of it or not. Deep down, it is part of our nature to want to help others, to make a positive difference in their lives.
Sometimes, this can be a difficult concept to grasp, especially if we are struggling to meet our own needs. That’s because struggle and lack obscure our appreciation for the true value of giving. In reality, the ability to make a meaningful contribution to the lives of others does not depend on our financial circumstances. Compulsory giving out of a sense of obligation is not the same as giving from the heart.
Give from your hearts abundance
Something as simple as the gift of a sincere smile can mean a lot to someone who is feeling down. How about helping an elderly person, or a mother trying to manage her children, load their groceries into their car? Think that might make a significant difference in their day? Many children grow up having spent very little one-on-one time with their parents as individuals. Giving of your time is a gift of incomparable value to your children.
The point is, when you are willing to give from the abundance of your heart there is never any shortage of gifts or lack of opportunities. The idea that we are obligated to give at certain times and in certain ways has distorted the whole concept of giving. Which would you rather receive – a gift from the heart or one that came from a sense of obligation and social pressure?
Expand your heart and experience deeper satisfaction
Once we begin to experiment with different ways of helping others we may discover a wide array of surprising benefits. Helping others is always a worthwhile pursuit all on its own, and that’s how we should view it. But in reality, most forms of giving also include receiving on some level.
That’s because there is a special kind of satisfaction that comes only through giving. In fact I don’t believe it is possible to experience a deeply satisfying and fulfilling life without a personal commitment to contributing to others in positive ways.
Happiness is the byproduct of giving from the heart
We can expect to experience a powerful internal transformation once we embrace the role of a contributor. It automatically initiates a quantum shift in our values and beliefs. Our perception of what is important in life takes on a new dimension and our concept of reality begins to expand around the desire to help others.
A willingness to contribute should always be fueled by an unselfish desire to give without any thought of getting something in return. Even so, those you help will often express gratitude. Once your heart is touched by the grateful appreciation of another, you will be hooked on giving. The experience of receiving on that level expands your heart and changes your sense of identity. In some very tangible and amazing ways, giving is truly a gift.
Are you in touch with your inner philanthropist?
Has the gift of a smile ever touched your heart?
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I really believe that it is in giving that we receive. Relationships are what make life worth living, and a desire to serve others comes from realizing this. Whether its a stranger, family, or friend we receive the blessing when our kind deeds are appreciated. When we understand that we are all connected in the scheme of things it allows us to open our hearts and move beyond petty judgements.
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Hello Joe, nice to hear from you! You said that so nicely and I couldn’t agree more. If the whole world ran on that concept living in it would be amazing for everyone. For now, it’s great to know that giving from the heart in service to others brings meaningful blessings for everyone involved.
Hi Jonathan,
Actions from the heart are the most powerful, thank you.
be good to yourself
David
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Way to encapsulate a big discussion into just a few word David. I love it when that happens!
I love that you made the distinction between giving and giving from the heart. The difference is almost as great as giving versus taking. When we give out of obligation or anything other than an inspired desire to do so, we may as well not be giving at all. Giving from the heart makes miracles. In fact, even a very small gift (like forgiving or overlooking a mistake) can make a miraculous impact when given with pure-positive gratitude for the opportunity to simply be the giver.
Nea | Self Improvement Saga recently posted..Are You Powerful Enough to Change Your Life?
Hi Nea, that is indeed an important distinction. Giving is so powerful when it is prompted by the right motive. When obligation inters the picture it robs that power an turns it into something completely different.
Hello Jonathan,
I have a tweet that goes out every morning at 6:00 a.m. that states – Remember to smile at a stranger today for you never know what life you will touch…just like the gift of giving. You never know what life you will change by a simple gift of love from your heart.
It happened to me about 10 weeks ago – I randomly met a couple from Germany on the beach as I was walking and I was leaving for Catalina the next day and they needed a place to stay – I offered my condo on the beach and now 10 weeks later I heard from them (they are back in Stuttgart) and they told me that Nancy lives in their hearts and minds due to the gift of allowing them my place for a few days while I was gone – no charge – just a free gift…..they may have enjoyed the gift but they touched my life so much more.
In gratitude,
Nancy
Nancy Shields recently posted..WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY?
What a great story Nancy, thank you so much for sharing because your experience perfectly illustrates how giving truly is a gift when it comes from the heart.
I came into some unexpected money this year, and I have had so much fun giving it away! I have given some to organizations I support , and some to people I know who are in need. The latter took a bit of maneuvering since I had to figure out how to give it to them so they wouldn’t know where it came from. That made it even more satisfying. I’m so glad I kept thinking of it as “free money” rather than money I should keep and invest. I didn’t need it, so it made sense to give it to those who do.
I hope folks will take your advice and enjoy giving.
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Hi Galen, way to give from the heart. Giving anonymously really shows where you are coming from. That is unselfish, heartfelt generosity that isn’t even looking for recognition. Outstanding!
Hi Jonathan
I agree with you wholeheartedly, giving from the heart produces some of THE best feelings a person could ever wish to experience.
And as you point out, giving isn’t just about money or finances, a gift of a smile, a helping hand or simply giving of your time can mean a lot to a person who is in need of those gifts at that time.
Great post Jonathan, thank you!
Angus
Angus Finlayson recently posted..Giving Is the Key to Fulfilment
Thanks Angus, there is a lot of support here from people I know to be giving by nature. That fact alone speaks volumes about benefits felt by those who appreciate the gift of giving.
“It’s better to Give than to Receive” – a famous quote based on a powerful truth. A Kind and Pure Heart is Blessed. The more you give to the least of your brothers, a hundred to a thousandfold you receive.
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Sharing is loving… This post really hit at the right time considering the season. It really makes me feel happier and more refreshed when I do something good for the right reason.
Hi, Jonathan, What an inspiring post! When we give of ourselves, without thought of ‘what’s in it for us’ we Always gain. It truly does warm me from the inside out. ~Connie
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In my culture we still bathe our dear ones who are no more with us ourselves…at times with some assistance or else just the closest family. As i was growing up I saw people were not very comfortable doing that and at times were even scared of the dead person. I observed and learnt the procedure of how a female needs to be bathed and clothed and the prayers that go with it. I am so grateful to my Creator that the last gift I give to my loved ones is the one they need the most…to clean them and prepare them carefully for their next life.