Comments on: Empower Yourself with Positive Self-Talk http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/ Strategies for Positive Change Wed, 23 May 2012 08:08:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26859 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 05 Oct 2011 22:56:26 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26859 Excellent strategy Ken, it's kind of a reverse Golden Rule. In this case it's more like "Do unto yourself (with the same sense of compassion) as you do unto others." I love it. :) Excellent strategy Ken, it’s kind of a reverse Golden Rule. In this case it’s more like “Do unto yourself (with the same sense of compassion) as you do unto others.” I love it. :)

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26858 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Wed, 05 Oct 2011 22:52:40 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26858 Hi Galen, great question! I think the pervasiveness of negative self talk may be somewhat cultural but I think it has more to do with an ungrounded consciousness coupled with distorted expectations. The more developed a society is (according to the social definition) the more they lose touch with the things that really matter. The resulting loss of balance sets up a negative internal feedback loop. Hi Galen, great question! I think the pervasiveness of negative self talk may be somewhat cultural but I think it has more to do with an ungrounded consciousness coupled with distorted expectations. The more developed a society is (according to the social definition) the more they lose touch with the things that really matter. The resulting loss of balance sets up a negative internal feedback loop.

]]> By: Ken Wert http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26577 Ken Wert Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:02:01 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26577 Great post, Jonathan! Given how prevalent such self-criticism is, this is such an important topic. The way I have been able to reduce my negative self-talk is simply to include myself in the circle of compassion I tend to have for others. I'm a pretty compassionate man, or so I tell myself. And yet we can be so uncompassionate with ourselves. So one day I just decided that I'm about as human as the next guy, so why not exercise that same compassion I have for others on myself? And it worked! Thanks again for sharing your insight on this, Jonathan! Great post, Jonathan! Given how prevalent such self-criticism is, this is such an important topic.

The way I have been able to reduce my negative self-talk is simply to include myself in the circle of compassion I tend to have for others. I’m a pretty compassionate man, or so I tell myself. And yet we can be so uncompassionate with ourselves. So one day I just decided that I’m about as human as the next guy, so why not exercise that same compassion I have for others on myself? And it worked!

Thanks again for sharing your insight on this, Jonathan!
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]]> By: Ken Wert http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26576 Ken Wert Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:48:14 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26576 Hi Galen! Your closing comment made me laugh, so I just had to say hi. I wish my memory lapses were isolated to mornings! :) Hi Galen! Your closing comment made me laugh, so I just had to say hi. I wish my memory lapses were isolated to mornings! :)
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]]> By: Galen Pearl http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26567 Galen Pearl Tue, 27 Sep 2011 17:27:38 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26567 I've been thinking about this for awhile. Do you think the pervasiveness of negative self talk is a universal phenomenon or a cultural one? There is a story that the Dalai Lama was quite surprised to be asked about the prevalence of self-hatred in the Western world. He didn't understand the concept. At any rate, it is without question a destructive and unhealthy habit, one which most of us are unaware of. And most of us are surprised, once we become aware of it, to realize how much we do it! Thankfully, that awareness can lead us to develop habits of positive self talk. I think Buddha said that no one is more deserving of our love than ourselves. (Did I make that up?) Ha! My memory for references is a bit fuzzy this morning. But I won't criticize myself for that! I’ve been thinking about this for awhile. Do you think the pervasiveness of negative self talk is a universal phenomenon or a cultural one? There is a story that the Dalai Lama was quite surprised to be asked about the prevalence of self-hatred in the Western world. He didn’t understand the concept.

At any rate, it is without question a destructive and unhealthy habit, one which most of us are unaware of. And most of us are surprised, once we become aware of it, to realize how much we do it! Thankfully, that awareness can lead us to develop habits of positive self talk.

I think Buddha said that no one is more deserving of our love than ourselves. (Did I make that up?) Ha! My memory for references is a bit fuzzy this morning. But I won’t criticize myself for that!
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]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26564 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 27 Sep 2011 15:19:59 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26564 Hey Miki, you had a very smart teacher, be thankful for the gift of "self-introspection." It will serve you well your entire life. Hey Miki, you had a very smart teacher, be thankful for the gift of “self-introspection.” It will serve you well your entire life.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26563 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 27 Sep 2011 15:17:42 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26563 Hi Rob, indeed, it is very often those little mental shifts that produce the most dramatic results. Like a boat on the open ocean, a degree or two of change in compass bearing eventually leads to a completely different destination. Hi Rob, indeed, it is very often those little mental shifts that produce the most dramatic results. Like a boat on the open ocean, a degree or two of change in compass bearing eventually leads to a completely different destination.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/empower-yourself-with-positive-self-talk/#comment-26562 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 27 Sep 2011 15:14:07 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/?p=223#comment-26562 Hi Tony, in harmony with your comment many of my coaching clients initially struggle with negative self-talk and it is often a residual echo left over from a disapproving parent. Once we unveil the source and bring it into the open we have set the stage for the healing (or should I say silencing) process to begin. Hi Tony, in harmony with your comment many of my coaching clients initially struggle with negative self-talk and it is often a residual echo left over from a disapproving parent. Once we unveil the source and bring it into the open we have set the stage for the healing (or should I say silencing) process to begin.

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