When working toward goals or striving for success in any endeavor, self-discipline is often listed as absolutely necessary.
Do you cringe at the thought of self discipline? Many people do because it brings to mind visions of sacrifice, denial, and a constant battle against our natural tendencies.
Is that how you feel about self-discipline?
The way we choose to approach self-discipline has a major influence on how we feel about it. One of the most common problems happens when we get all fired up and then try to go from having no self-discipline, to forcing ourselves to undertake a huge and uncomfortable new challenge.
Enthusiasm is a wonderful quality that can be very motivating. But enthusiasm can be short lived if we bite off more than we can reasonably manage. If you struggle with self-discipline you will probably benefit from the following three suggestions.
3 ways to minimize the discomfort of self-discipline
1) Change your attitude about discipline. One reason you may not feel very disciplined is because you think the activities or chores you need to do will be unpleasant in some way. The most common reaction to such thoughts is to put those activities aside or avoid them altogether. In other words, procrastination!
What if you adopted a different attitude? What if, instead of procrastinating, you mentally pumped yourself up to get them done as soon as possible? Could you decide to look forward to the challenge instead of trying to avoid it?
One way to accomplish this mental shift is by reminding yourself how great it will feel when you are finished. Focus on the sense of personal accomplishment you’ll gain and you’ll be much more motivated to go for it.
2) Make self-discipline a gradual process. Rather than trying to force yourself into submission with a giant list of tasks or activities, try a more gradual approach.
Identify one small task or activity that you can use for practice. Make it something fairly easy to accomplish each day, and then make sure you do it. If you tend to forget, you might strategically post a few notes of encouragement to help remind you.
If possible, get this one task out of the way first thing in the morning before you do anything else. If you make it one of your highest priorities for awhile, it will soon become a painless habit. If you break things down into a series of smaller steps the whole process will feel much more manageable.
This is a great way to build momentum and eventually you’ll find that you are doing the things you set out to do without excuses or procrastination.
3) Commitment. If you’re not fully committed to achieving your goals, you’ll probably have a harder time pushing yourself to work on them. Make a promise to yourself that you will do whatever it takes to work toward your goals every single day. Write a list of important action steps and make it your mission to do one or more of them daily. Reaffirm your commitment to yourself as often as necessary to make sure you stick to your plans.
Consistency is the key
More than anything else, self-discipline is the result of a series of small decisions that you make each day. It is so easy to chase after things that offer a giant reward with little or no effort. How many times have you done that? How did things turn out? I am reminded of the words of Jim Rohn who said, “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.”
What are your feelings about self-discipline?
How important is attitude with regard to procrastination?
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Jonathan, These suggestions have definitely been helpful to me. The point you raise about biting off more than you can chew has been an important one for me. I also find shifting my attitude really helps. If I have a task to do that I don’t particularly enjoy it’s far easier if I don’t think about it and just do it. In retrospect it often feels like it wasn’t really such a big deal. The small steps you suggest are really a powerful key.
Sandra Lee recently posted..The true meaning of Zen Hint- it’s not a habit
Hi Sandra, You make an excellent point here. Very often procrastination is caused by over thinking things. If we just get busy and try to maintain a positive (or even neutral) attitude, before you know it the task is over and we can focus on something else.
Johnathan, these are excellent suggestions and your posts speaks of so much truth.
Neva Flores recently posted..Motives of Ivory Veils – Sept 30- 2010
Greetings Neva and thank you. I find simple, practical strategies to be really helpful because they are so easy to implement.
I don’t like to feel that my freedom is being cut off, so I’m definitely one of those people who almost barfs at the thought of self discipline. I love living in the moment; however, I think I can handle the idea of self discipline more easily if I approach it gradually.
Nea | Self Improvement Saga recently posted..75 Ways to Show Love in Relationships
Hi Nea, I know what you mean. The very concept of self-discipline can seem restrictive and limiting. Interestingly, if we reframe self-discipline and call it focus instead, our internal response is completely different. This is one of those situations where a simple shift in attitude works wonders. Breaking things down into smaller steps minimizes the “discipline” aspect along with the accompanying negative reflex to it.
Hi Jonathan. These are great steps you have suggested for having more self discipline. Just looking at the attitude of self discipline and changing it’s meaning can help a great deal.
Loved the quote from Jim Rohn.
Steven Aitchison recently posted..What is the The Kairu-Kensho Mind
Hi Steve, isn’t it amazing how a slightly different perception can create either a more positive or more negative internal reaction? Is working out an exercise in drudgery and pain, or is it an enjoyable and invigorating break in our day that we look forward to? No matter how we view it one thing is sure: it takes self-discipline to stick to an exercise program. How we choose to view it is what makes it a good experience, or something less desirable. It’s all about attitude!
Good morning Jonathan. There are two basic species of “self-discipline” and I personally have experienced both. I’ll illustrate by way of a little story. Imagine you’re way out in the woods and have to go home. Tramping through the forest, you come to a fork in the trail and choose the left path. Soon you come to a pond you can’t go around, filled with alligators. To get through the water you will need big self-discipline of the first kind. You’ll have to force yourself with a cattle-prod every painful step of the way. Why? Your heart doesn’t really want to go there. Okay, so let’s say you go back and take that second fork in the trail. This one takes a lot of work, because it goes up and down mountains, but you can often see home in the distance and feel good about making your way there. Path two takes a different kind of “self-discipline”. It takes persistence and effort and so on….but even so you feel good accomplishing headway. It’s a kind of “self-discipline” you willingly take on. Same thing applies to real life. If you’re steadfastly growing yourself in the direction you were meant to grow, “self-discipline” is “pain with a purpose”. It’s a natural struggle to succeed in a way that suits you and only you. On the other hand, if you have no idea why you’re here, self-discipline is a kind of punishment. It FEELS hard, bad, painful, and is often steered clear of. And the point is? Learn how to be yourself and everyone will say…..”Holy baked whales on toast Batman….have you ever got great self-discipline”….as you go about your life of achievement. But you’ll know something they don’t. Namely…..all that hard work and persisting is a kind of “tough fun”. Kinda like “tough love” actually. Ciao Jonathan. John Duffield
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