Comments on: Do You Feel Secure? http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/ Strategies for Positive Change Wed, 23 May 2012 08:08:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-23205 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 14 Jul 2011 00:42:50 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-23205 Hi James, I am working with a coaching client right now who spent most of her life being put down by those closest to her. I am happy to say that she is making some awesome progress and it is so wonderful to see. There really is no excuse for such thoughtlessness. Thankfully, we can get past almost anything if we take the time to learn the skills we were never taught, or fortunate enough to get help from someone who understands those skills. It so so rewarding to help guide someone out of that dark place into a world of amazing opportunity. It's the real joy of <a href="http://breakthroughstrategycoaching.com/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">coaching</a>. Hi James, I am working with a coaching client right now who spent most of her life being put down by those closest to her. I am happy to say that she is making some awesome progress and it is so wonderful to see. There really is no excuse for such thoughtlessness. Thankfully, we can get past almost anything if we take the time to learn the skills we were never taught, or fortunate enough to get help from someone who understands those skills. It so so rewarding to help guide someone out of that dark place into a world of amazing opportunity. It’s the real joy of coaching.

]]> By: James Pruitt http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-23201 James Pruitt Thu, 14 Jul 2011 00:14:25 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-23201 This is awesome Jonathan. In answer to your question about knowing anyone like that, I see them every time I look in the mirror. I grew up with a very similar story in my own life. Lucky for my, I found help, although it was only a couple of years ago, and I am still working through years of baggage. One thing I have found is that part of the cause of all those insecurities is the broken records of everyone who were harsh and critical back then. One way that I have found to help break those broken records is to confront them. I did mine by writing a letter to the people who used to tell me all those bad things, telling them how they hurt me, how I felt then, how I felt now, and how I would choose to respond to them. Once I started doing that, I was able to erase the broken records and replace them with more positive affirmations of self praise and acceptance. This is awesome Jonathan. In answer to your question about knowing anyone like that, I see them every time I look in the mirror. I grew up with a very similar story in my own life. Lucky for my, I found help, although it was only a couple of years ago, and I am still working through years of baggage.

One thing I have found is that part of the cause of all those insecurities is the broken records of everyone who were harsh and critical back then. One way that I have found to help break those broken records is to confront them. I did mine by writing a letter to the people who used to tell me all those bad things, telling them how they hurt me, how I felt then, how I felt now, and how I would choose to respond to them.

Once I started doing that, I was able to erase the broken records and replace them with more positive affirmations of self praise and acceptance.
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]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22393 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 23 Jun 2011 03:03:14 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22393 Hi Nea, you are a beautiful person and a source of encouragement for so many. Thanks for sharing those thoughts! Hi Nea, you are a beautiful person and a source of encouragement for so many. Thanks for sharing those thoughts!

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22392 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 23 Jun 2011 03:00:20 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22392 Hi Stuart, kind words of encouragement and acknowledgment are usually very appreciated and so easy to give. It's a habit that we all do well to develop. Hi Stuart, kind words of encouragement and acknowledgment are usually very appreciated and so easy to give. It’s a habit that we all do well to develop.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22391 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 23 Jun 2011 02:57:32 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22391 Hi David, so many times we are holding onto beliefs that no longer serve us. I have found that those old belief systems and the established response patterns they support are usually outside a persons conscious awareness. Exposing those stealthy little critters is one of the most enjoyable things about being a coach. I am sure you can relate. Hi David, so many times we are holding onto beliefs that no longer serve us. I have found that those old belief systems and the established response patterns they support are usually outside a persons conscious awareness. Exposing those stealthy little critters is one of the most enjoyable things about being a coach. I am sure you can relate.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22390 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 23 Jun 2011 02:52:01 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22390 Hi Sandra, what a great question. The other side of that is the fact that strong emotions like insecurity actually create biochemical changes, including chemical imbalances. So yes, that never ending cycle actually goes full circle. The good news is that adjusting the emotion can help restore the biochemical systems unless there is a malfunction in the system. Hi Sandra, what a great question. The other side of that is the fact that strong emotions like insecurity actually create biochemical changes, including chemical imbalances. So yes, that never ending cycle actually goes full circle. The good news is that adjusting the emotion can help restore the biochemical systems unless there is a malfunction in the system.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22389 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Thu, 23 Jun 2011 02:46:47 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22389 Greetings Nancy, indeed, the fact that we actually can change those beliefs really opens the door on a whole world of possibility. Greetings Nancy, indeed, the fact that we actually can change those beliefs really opens the door on a whole world of possibility.

]]> By: Nea | Self Improvement Saga http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22384 Nea | Self Improvement Saga Thu, 23 Jun 2011 02:27:38 +0000 http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/do-you-feel-secure/#comment-22384 I'm happy to know that Angela/Angelina was able to overcome the insecurity issues brought on by her upbringing. When we feel unsafe, unsure, unprotected- we behave in ways that make life much more difficult than it has to be. It seems that nearly every "bad" thing that happens is somehow related to insecurity- giving up, lying, stealing, cheating, being violent. So much of that can be turned around by simply learning to trust that everything will work itself out. I’m happy to know that Angela/Angelina was able to overcome the insecurity issues brought on by her upbringing. When we feel unsafe, unsure, unprotected- we behave in ways that make life much more difficult than it has to be. It seems that nearly every “bad” thing that happens is somehow related to insecurity- giving up, lying, stealing, cheating, being violent. So much of that can be turned around by simply learning to trust that everything will work itself out.

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