Can Positive Thinking Really Improve Your Life?

by Jonathan

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Do you know any critics of positive thinking? Have you heard the argument that positive thinking is just a way of hiding from reality?

The question of whether or not positive thinking has any measurable benefits has interested science for a number of years. For the most part, studies are focused on identifying possible physical benefits.

As researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health, they have come to some interesting conclusions. Their results show that positive thinking benefits include:

* Decreased negative stress
* Greater resistance to catching the common cold
* A sense of well-being and improved health
* Reduced risk of coronary artery disease
* Easier breathing if you have certain lung diseases
* Better coping skills in difficult situations

Positive thinking people are HAPPIER

Pessimists are more inwardly focused and have more depression, anxiety and other mental health problems in general. Positive people have a greater capacity for love, joy and warmth that brings happiness into their lives, and also into the lives of their families and everyone else around them. This increased capacity for love means that they are loved more in return because they are more outwardly focused, kinder and more considerate to others.

Positive thinking people are HEALTHIER

It’s still somewhat unclear to researchers why people who practice positive thinking experience these health benefits. One theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body. Hello, who wants less stress?

Positive thinking people are MORE SUCCESSFUL

To put it another way, successful people tend to think positively. Optimists are happier and more productive in their jobs, get promoted quicker and earn more than pessimists. These people set higher goals, persist at them longer, and achieve more of them.

Turning negative thinking into positive thinking

Self-talk has a huge influence on the overall direction of our thoughts. Negative self-talk is an easy habit to slip into, especially if you are surrounded by negative people. So, the first step toward a more positive mindset is to change the tone of our self-talk.

Like any other bad habit, before we can change it we need to become more consciously aware that we are doing it. Periodically during the day, stop and evaluate the tone of your thinking and self-talk. If you find that they have been negative, work on finding ways to put a positive spin on them. Make a game out of it.

Start by following one simple rule: Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else. If it’s not worth saying out loud, it’s probably not worthy of saying to yourself.

Here are some examples of typical negative self-talk and how you might put a more positive spin on these internal (or external) conversations.

Negative self-talk Positive spin
I’ve never done it before. It’s an opportunity to learn something.
It’s too complicated. I’ll tackle it from a different angle.
I don’t have the resources. Necessity is the mother of invention.
There’s not enough time. Let’s re-evaluate some priorities.
There’s no way it will work. I can learn to make it work.
It’s too radical a change. Let’s take a chance.
No one communicates with me. I will start the conversation.
I’m not getting any better at this. I want to give it another chance.

Becoming an optimist

If you tend to have a negative outlook, don’t expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practice and focus, you will automatically move away from self-criticism and toward self-acceptance. You will likely find yourself feeling less critical of the world around you as well.

Practicing positive self-talk will improve your outlook. As your state of mind becomes increasingly more optimistic, you will be able to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way.

So, what do you think? Can positive thinking really improve your life? Well, let’s see; less stress, happier disposition, better health, and greater success – sounds pretty conclusive to me. How about you?

Is positive thinking something that you believe in?
Do you have some tips for maintaining a positive outlook?
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Lance

Hi Jonathan,
I’m all for positive thinking!!! Healthier, happier, more successful!! I’ll take that….and….well, it just feels good! (hmm…maybe that’s the happier part!)

I noticed the other day, as I was out driving, and thinking I was going to be late to wherever – that I was starting to get irritated at how “slow” everyone was going. What I’ve done recently, though – is when I notice this – I consciously make an effort to focus on the positive of the moment (and the truth is – sometimes I miss these moments altogether). When I do that – and see the good (like going slower means I can notice more of my surroundings, or I can take a different road and different scenery) – I become almost instantly happier on the inside. And that is a pretty great feeling!!

I’m guessing you are a pretty positive guy, aren’t you Jonathan!!

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hey Lance, your little story really illustrates how much control we have over any situation in life. Focus is so very powerful, but we need to direct it in a positive way or it’s not doing us any good.

Ever notice how some peoples conversations are centered on what’s wrong with their life? Then there are those in similar situations whose focus is positive and upbeat. The difference in not in the situation, it’s in the interpretation, attitude, midset, and perception.

A positive life is the result of a positive attitude, not ideal circumstances. We decide the meaning of our experiences.

Am I a positive guy? Well, maybe just a little (ha ha). Thank you my friend.

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Steve-Prospering With Aspergers

Jonathan, one of the best books I read on this topic was a researcher and pioneer in the field of positive psychology: Dr. Martin Seligman. Positive is not wishful thinking. Rather, it’s optimistic versus pessimistic thinking. You are absolutely right that it’s a learned skill. But the key is, once we are aware of our tendencies, we can catch our thoughts and change our mindsets and attitudes. One of the best antidotes to pessimism is gratitude on a daily basis: write down 10 things to be grateful. Or write down your fears, then write down gratitude’s as answered prayers next to each one.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Steve, I totally agree with absolutely everything you said. I’m not going to dilute it by saying anything more. A+ comment my friend.

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Farnoosh

Jonathan, is there even a question about it?
I have no doubt at all that positivity is more than just an attitude and a good thing for our health. It is the path to success. I known because I have been on both sides of the fence and this side is much more fulfilling and rewarding!!! Great reminder but truly hard to ever argue with :)!

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Farnoosh, to people like us, there is no question about it. We know the benefits of a positive outlook and don’t need science to convince us.

I was hoping to reach the hearts of those whose awareness hasn’t yet lead them to the same conclusion. If even one person decides to embrace positive thinking after reading this, then I will have contributed to the quality of that persons life. And that feels really great.

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Farnoosh

Indeed, Jonathan and I’ll try to do the same to spread positivism all around!

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

You do a good job farnoosh. Your smile alone can light up a room. I find you to be extremely positive.

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Parker Lee

Hi Jonathan,

I think some people confuse “positive thinking” to being optimistic. As in, sometimes I get clients who try to think “positive thoughts” and have “positive outlooks in life” all the time, to the point where in situations where it’s “OK” and would be considered encouraged to let out some steam, that they come off as “fake” when being “positive”.

All the best,

Parker

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hey Parker, your comment points to something that is often missed with regard to positive thinking. We need to adopt a genuinely positive attitude, not just pretend to feel that way.

In the beginning we might not feel totally sincere about it, and that’s okay. But with practice our perception should shift so that our positive words and actions are a reflection of how we really feel.

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jackie

For me, being positive is an attitude that does not allow pessimism (obviously) :)
it’s a right attitude actually

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi jackie, it may be next to impossible to never have a pessimistic or sarcastic thought. What really matters is our dominate tendency. Is our overall attitude optimistic or pessimistic? How do we come across to other people? And when we find ourselves starting to lean toward pessimism, do we have the awareness to turn it around quickly. Remember, personal development is not a goal, it’s an ongoing process. It’s a path!

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Frank

I really do think that positive thinking can greatly alter your outlook on life. I agree with you about the challenge which is making sure you remain in control of your actions. There are some people, including myself who have had negative self talk be apart of their lives for so long that we do so uncosciously. It is what comes natural. You will have to make sure that you take the time to not only change your thoughts but also your actions. But the benefits outweigh the challenges.

Great Post

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Frank, the self-talk aspect is so very important. It’s one of the fundamental ways that we program our nervous system. I think we all struggle with this to some degree. Who hasn’t got down on themselves for a mistake, poor judgment, or a bad decision? I think we all do that at times.

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Nea

Awesome post Jonathan. Positive thinking is one of my favorite topics and you did such a great job of putting it into perspective. I like that you reminded people that we don’t become optimist’s overnight. It’s a process that involves changing the way we think, which is something that didn’t develop overnight. Keep up the good work my friend.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Nea, you have always impressed me as a very positive person. Changing ourselves on a core level usually requires that we retrain our minds to think in a new direction. That means that we need to unlearn some things while learning others. It would be nice if we could just flip a switch and make it happen, but life rarely works that way.

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Jarrod@ Optimistic Journey

Hi Jonathan,

I totally agree! I love how you pointed out that when making a point to think positive, it doesn’t happen over night. But it’s worth making the choice to view the cup as half full. Thanks for sharing!

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Jarrod and welcome to Advanced Life Skills. You are so right my friend. It is definitely worth making the positive choice. Thanks for stopping by and taking the comment to join the conversation.

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Stephen - Rat Race Trap

Hi Jonathan, I’m a big believer in positive thinking, but it has to be genuine. Too many people want to take the easy way out and act negative but lie to themselves positively. This pseudo-positive thinking is what gives it a bad reputation. I think for it to work, you have to genuinely feel it.

Good work!

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

So right Stephen, Parker Lee commented on this also. We need to adopt a genuinely positive attitude, not just pretend to feel that way. If we are trying to shift from a predominately negative orientation, it may feel “put on” at first. That should be a temporary feeling that fades as we change our internal perspective.

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Brian Earley

My girlfriend believes very much in the concept of positive thinking. Whenever she feels a cold coming on, she tells herself that she’s not going to get sick, and she very rarely does! I have a slight cold right now, and she keeps telling me to say I’m not sick.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hey Brian, it’s been my experience that women are usually right (I’ve been with my wife for 27 years). So, we can be stubborn, or we can be smart.

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Zeenat{Positive Provocations}

HI Jonathan,
Now youre just teasing me with that question at the end right?? Come on I have a whole blog about how positive thinking can heal the mind, body, heart & Soul. Need I say more ;)
But i am an eternal optimist. I often get asked..dont you ever feel down..or sad..and I just respond with, “yes ofcourse! But i snap out of it quicker…cause i just BELIEVE that everything WILL be alright.”
My mum is my biggest challenge ;) I have kind of converted her from an eternal pessimist to a raging optimistic pessimist ;)
Lovely topic, lovely writing…and perfect examples at the end…Love it!
Much love,
Z~

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Zeenat, I know it can seem unbelievable that someone would need to be convinced of the “tangible” benefits of positive thinking. What seems so obvious to some can still be doubted by intelligent people who just happen to see life through a different window. This can be due to any number of influences. I guess my hope is that a little science will provide the needed catalyst.

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Katherine Caren

Thinking positive will make your life easier. We all experience problems and challenges in life but with the help of our positive mind thinking it will surely be easy for us in solving each problems.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Katherine , and welcome to Advanced Life Skills. There are so many benefits to positive thinking and we probably don’t know the half of it. It’s been the my primary focus for so long that I really don’t know any other way.

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Dia

Hi Jonathan,

Positive thinking has powerful affects on people. Just like you mentioned, people who think positively are happier and healthier. They also are the ones who achieve their goals. Everything begins with our thoughts…

Thanks for sharing Jonathan

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hey Dia, indeed, everything does begin with our thoughts. We decide the meaning of everything in our lives. So, why not decide to make it all positive? Thanks for joining the conversation.

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Bonnidette - Positive thinking toolbox

Great article and some great responses as well. I would just like to add that there are several positive emotions you can focus on to help maintain a positive attitude. They include joy, serenity, hope, interest, pride, amusement, inspiration, awe, and love. So when you are finding it difficult to stay positive find one of these emotions to focus on.

I also wanted to point out that being “fake positive” is even worse for you than negativity itself. So don’t plaster a fake smile on your face (research shows this causes more stress than actual negativity on the body) simply find something you can be positive about and shift your attention to that.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Bonnidette, welcome to Advanced Life Skills. That’s a nice list of positive emotions, I would add gratitude. Of all the emotions that get me moving in the right direction, gratitude is my top pick.

That was an interesting bit of info about being fake positive. Thanks for sharing it.

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Bonnidette

How could I have left out gratitude. Yes gratitude and love are the two strongest emotions. Thank you for pointing that out.

I find when I am in a slump or feel stuck finding those things I can be grateful for or counting those I love can bring me out of it and back to a more positive mindset all around.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

I like to do a little gratitude review first thing every morning and last thing at night. Helps me keep thing in perspective. Thanks Bonnidette.

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Julie

I can’t attest to it being a learned skill, because I’ve always been optimistic and positive. In fact, I’ve been called “Pollyanna,” and not in a nice way! You can guess it was said by someone who wasn’t feeling their bliss. ;) But, whether learned or inherent, maintaining a positive outlook is so easy, SO easy… and this tip might help those who find it difficult to summon gratitude when they’re feeling impatient or stressed, tired, whatever. Simply hold yourself ready to be wowed! Everywhere you turn, there’s something to catch your attention, bring you up short, and make you catch your breath with wonder…. Or laughter… Or excitement… Remember how it was as a child? You could flip instantly from pouting to laughing at someone’s antics. Even we grudge-holding adults can do this, if willing. Nature’s an incredible resource for wonder! And so is mankind; the next time you pass a skyscraper, pause to really think about how it all came together. And here’s the best one: Develop the ability to laugh at yourself. This one… Ah, this one’s the best. :)

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Julie, I also think gratitude is one of the main keys to a positive attitude. Something remarkable happens to our perception of life when we are filled with appreciation. The more we focus on our blessings, the more they seem to multiply.

Looks like you live in the country. That in itself is such a blessing. I live on 15 acres in the mountains of southern Oregon and feel so grateful every single day that I get to live here.

Thanks so much for joining the conversation Julie. I really appreciate your input.

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Julie

Jonathan…. I promise. I promise promise I was not raising my voice through that whole comment!!! LOL No, I just forgot the end-italics. Technology and I have a strange relationship. ;)

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Julie, the thought never crossed my mind. I am just happy to see you here and be encouraged by your positive energy. I won’t change the italics because then these last two comments wouldn’t make a lick of sense. Cheers!

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Deri Latimer

I could not agree more, Jonathan! I speak on this topic regularly (and I practice what I preach).
Regards, Deri

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Deri, I love how people really come together when the conversation is all about “positive.” It’s like all it takes is a little reminder to get everyone in sync.

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Wendy MacKay

Have you ever noticed that it is the negative thinkers that fear changing, therefore do not want to believe that positive thoughts create positive actions?

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Wendy, I feel bad for those who choose to operate on a negative charge. It’s so closed and pessimistic. That’s a terrible way to view life.

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DaveUrsillo

Great post Jon. It’s true. Yes, positive thinking can have major influences on our lives. People who do not understand it would benefit by reading your post, because in its simplicity it explains a great deal.

We tend too often, I think, to think that only reality influences our perception in life. So too can our perception greatly influence reality.

Thanks again,
Dave

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Dave, I think our perception is 90% of our reality. We get to decide the value (positive or negative) of any event or situation we find ourselves in. I like to ask: “What else could this mean?” the possibilities are almost endless, and we get to choose the ones we like.

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Marko

HI Jonathan,

I think that both positive and negative thinking is useless.

They both are illusions.

Reality is what is happening in the present moment, right?

A person who has a positive or negative thinking does not actually looking at the present moment, that person is not looking at reality.. .

This is the moment – now, so at this moment there is no good and bad things, only things. Everything else is unnecessary labelling of our mind.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hey Marko. I totally understand what you are saying. The problem is this: none of us has an objective view of reality. Because we run everything through the filters of our beliefs, our perception of reality is highly individualized.

Of course, we all think that our version is the most accurate, and it is, but only for us. Acknowledging that we see the world through the filters of our beliefs means that we can adjust our reality by adjusting those beliefs.

Believing that we are capable of viewing the world around us totally objectively would be an illusion. On the other hand, not attaching good or bad labels to anything does keep our experiences more real, as emotions tend to distort things. I think this is what you are probably referring to.

If that’s the case, then I agree with you although I don’t think most people will ever achieve that perspective. Certainly, resisting the urge to label our experiences allows us a greater degree of awareness and engagement. Looks like my reply went full circle, doesn’t it? Thanks Marko for the mental stimulation.

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Marko

Hello. First, thanks for the reply.

I think we’re talking about the same thing, just using different words. :)

You see, I don’t think that anyone is able to live fully and continuously in the present moment. Maybe there is, but it’s only a minority of such people.

However, the frequent moments spent at the present moment are not only possible but also desirable.
Let me explain. Life consists of many of the current moment, yes? One, after another, after another, after another. In some moments we are fully aware of the present moment, in some not.

This means that we are capable of viewing the world around us totally objectively, but only in some moments, not all. At those moments, our beliefs and convictions and the labels does not exist.

Yes, I agree with you that many of us run everything through the filters of our beliefs, though, there are moments, only moments of life in the present, where there are no filters of our beliefs.

I say that these moments are much more important than the negative and positive thinking.

As regards this you said in the last part of comment, for the label, that I totally agree.

Thank you for taking the time for this (slightly philosophical) discussion… :)

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Nice explanation Marko, I am totally with you. Thank you also for taking the time. Stimulating!

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Sandra Hendricks

Hi Jonathan,

I can see the point that many are making when it comes to positive thinking. I have begun to recognize that everything (all theories) has a fine line involved. I am an avid believer in thinking positive – this is the only way to live a happy and fulfilled life. However, I have had moments when I felt I was simply taking it too far and actually crossing over to another form of denial. Do you think it is possible to go into denial if it is taken too far? I mean does the old expression apply here? Too much of any good thing can be bad for us.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Great question Sandra, yes, I think we can cross the line. Here’s an example: If I jump off a 50 story building and think that positive thinking is going to save me, then I am in denial and about to get slapped hard by reality. Thanks for bring up the need for realistic anchors here.

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sonam

I think positive thinking is just a way of playing with your own mind. Just like your body does what your mind tells it to do, your mind too does what it’s told to do, what to think and how to think, its totally up to you. You have complete control over it, of course its kind of hard to control at first, but your mind settles the way you want it to if you just have good reasons for it. If you tell your mind that you are beautiful and give yourselves reasons to believe so (reasons that your mind thinks are good), then you really will think that you are beautiful and naturally have confidence in yourself. Now think of it the other way round…depressing isn’t it?

I think that positive thinking is like a trick to make yourself feel better, think better and act better. Though this whole ‘positive thinking’ thing is new to me, I’m finding it quite interesting and I am finding myself more aware of what I am thinking and how I’m feeling with each thought.
replacing the bad ones with good ones is literally leaving a smile on my face all the time and I feel very happy.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Nicely said Sonam, I guess we could call it a trick. But maybe it’s just that the view of reality looks better through the window of positive thinking.

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Christina

Hello, so I am wondering when all you see is negativity in the world around you, where do you start in seeing the positives?
I am in a very difficult situation which involves my boyfriend (who was in an accident in 2010- which has forever changed our lives) is living across the country (I signed a 10 month contract prior to when we got back together). I am in a rural isolated community, away from all my family and I have made some friends up here (but most are back home). Its 1 week into the 10 months and I am struggling to keep myself from drowning in the sea of negativity and depression. I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and depression and I am having a hard time seeing the light.

I was thinking of making a positive blog? Where I could try to inspire myself to see the light because the darkness of both negativity and depression will drown me this year if I am not careful. What can I do to help myself find the light so I am not so negative to both myself and in front of others?

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Christina, when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation it is easy to notice the things that we don’t like and then compare them with what we did like about our past situation. Making comparisons won’t help you feel better so that is a good habit to let go of. If you challenge yourself to find one new positive thing per day (about your now situation) and you make a list, it will change your focus. Each day your mind will be motivated to focus on the positive so it can provide you with something for your list. The bigger your list gets the easier it will be to find new positive things to add to it because your perception will have a new reference point.

One of my coaching clients who lacked confidence started a blog about confidence and it wasn’t long before her level of confidence skyrocketed. Again, by changing her focus she changed her perception.

If anxiety and depression continue to weigh you down you might benefit from reading How to Deal With Anxiety. I hope you find these suggestions helpful. If you need further assistance all of these issues can be addressed with a few one-on-one coaching sessions.

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Sue Willoughby

…..recently I’ve been helping my daughter re-train herself in this area~I’ve been calling it ‘stinkin thinkin’ and have been explaining that it’s just as easy to jump to a positive conclusion (to something going on) than to automatically go to the worst case scenario and since we have no idea WHAT is coming our way why not imagine a good outcome? It brings peace and does not cause stress to rise up for no reason. Worry is a wasted emotion as it never changes anything except our peace of mind!!
A lot of this stuff is found in the promises of God and is why people who know what the Bible says are shown to have a better outlook on their lives and get better outcomes than naysayers. Worry will kill you faster than whatever your imagination is afraid of happening will……
Good read!

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tree

Nice shot…

If we think in our mind that we are a successful, and than we will be successful. in reverse, if we think to ourselves I will fail, then we will fail. “We are what we think,” Keep in mind “I can”. Never say “I do not know if I can solve the problem or I do not know if I can finish this job.” Try to form optimistic sentences that can motivate you in your mind: “I think there are many options available to solve the problem, and I know I will find some of the best solutions that can be used to solve this problem”. If we think it is an easy job, the job will seem easier. Try and see! it’s working for me.

If we are able to harmonize these three elements; develop positive thoughts, keep a positive attitude, and maintain a positive heart, then what we do can be more meaningful.

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Lynette Guy

I believe that what you think about you bring about… I believe in looking at problems as issues that can be overcome with a little focus and I believe that we use much less energy and bring a whole lot more joy and happiness into this world and our lives by being on the positive side rather than the negative. Lets face it if we are going to expel energy lets use in to make life easier not more difficult. Have a great day, week,month, year and life. x

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Matt Marshall

Hi There,

Quick question, I’ve always tried very hard to apply a positive mindset to my everyday living, but life with its surprise problems, has always seem to throw me of course. I can manage the positive self talk but what if I don’t feel positive inside? I can most often feel negative inside, like a feeling of negativity. Does this matter? Should I continue with the positive self talk despite what I’m feeling? Will the positive self talk eventually override this? Many thanks,
Matt

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Matt, everyone’s life has its surprises. You see, it’s not what happens to us that really matters. It’s how we respond. Your negative internal environment is in conflict with the efforts you are making to be positive. To be truly positive, this internal conflict needs to be resolved. This is accomplished by harmonizing all the various aspects of your inner self. Positive self talk is a good start, but it won’t create the inner harmony you are seeking. If you follow the steps, and do the exercises in my book TRUE SELF, you can create align you inner dialogue with your positive self talk.

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Charmaine Day

Great post. I totally agree that positive thinking people are the ones with a happier disposition in life, and that a happy mind projects a healthy body.
Nothing can put down a person with a positive attitude but himself.Thanks for sharing.Your post gives me more reason to think positive amidst a chaotic world.

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Vina

Hi, I often find that my negative attitude to life can sometimes draw in the wrong people. I get worried that I repel the positive people in my surroundings which leads the negativity to grow as I feel a lack of people/friends around me. I get a bit stuck on how to keep a positive mind when things spiral downwards like this. Thanks,
Vina

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Vina

My name is Vina too! I’ve never met anyone with the same name as me before! And weirdly enough I have a similar issue as the other Vina! I completely agree being a positive person and thinking positive has great benefits and a person will achieve what they want in life if they adopt this attitude. I remember when I was very ill, I was focused on that all the time and I attracted the wrong sort of people in my life. Some of them people are still in my life because I have no one else and I desperately want to make new friends that are completely different to the ones I have now. But I can’t let go of them because then I am alone and have no one! Which is also very unhealthy! I am confident I will meet true friends but do you think hanging on to my old ‘friends’ is hindering new people to come into my life?
Thanks for the post,
Vina

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nikki

Hi,
believing in destiny and believing in something that you want should happen, according to me are two different schools of thought.
My question is that can we actually make something happen by having a firm belief in it (following the visualization technique) even though it might not be meant to happen otherwise that is not written in our destiny.
I’ve been long wondering on this one and would want to know your thoughts on this.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

We make our own destiny. Positive thinking and visualization are only a place to start because without action nothing happens. I like the saying that there are 3 kinds of people: 1) Those that want something to happen. 2) Those that make something happen. 3) And those that wonder what happened. To live a truly rewarding life we need to accept the fact that our thoughts and actions together with our response to circumstances are what create our reality.

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Linda hull

Positive thinking has helped me feel younger and healthy. I love it. Thank you so much. After the death of my husband it was to very thing I needed.

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Bob Vale

I am approaching retirement technically but don’t want it, as I feel too young mentally. I see my workplace degrading and have the fear that they will close down or put me off. I feel negative about most situations and see the down side of everything. I score badly o depression and anxiety tests. I see the negatives before the positives and some days I find it hard to be enthusiastic about just about anything. Hard to even write this email response. I want to run (drive) away and be by myself for a long time but I know the disruption it would cause my family. I want to do things and get enthusiastic but when it comes down to it I am mentally tied up in making ANY decision. I find a fear in everything. I don’t know what to do any more. I just keep going thru the motions day to day until something happens, I can’t seem to make things happen for me any more.

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Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Hi Bob, I usually don’t just come out and say this, but feel it needs to be said for your benefit. Bob, you need a coach to help you get moving in a positive direction. With a shift in perception you can view this point in life as an opportunity for growth and adventure. Think about it, this is your life we are talking about here!

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Craig!

I was reading an article that says when someone is critical about something, just notice the lip movement. They tend to shrink and wrinkle. Contrary to this, speaking positive words and anything graceful and see how your lips blossom ( I hope nobody prefer wrinkles). I think this is how it goes with good things; a positive thought become thing, keeps you happy and healthy and compliments your life in a better way :)
Thanks for sharing wisdom, I am sure it will be of great for many!

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