Life Skills For the Life You Really Want?

life skills for the life you want

I’d like to talk to you about a very important concept that can totally change the way you experience life starting immediately. The idea that I would like you to fully grasp is this: You can develop the life skills you need to create the life you really want.

It does not matter where you are in life, and it makes no difference what you want to achieve. The moment you finally make up your mind that things are going to be different, that is the point where your life can completely change direction. A simple decision is all it takes to start moving your life toward the achievement of your goals and dreams.

You can create that kind of decisive moment in your life anytime you choose; it is entirely up to you. You don’t need to wait for ideal circumstances to come along before you change your life. You just need to make up your mind that beginning right here and right now, you are going to learn the life skills necessary to claim the life that you truly desire.

When I say “make up your mind,” what do I mean?

One thing’s for sure, I am not talking about wishful thinking. Many people want to make dramatic changes in their lives, but how do things usually turn out? Sad to say, they usually slip back into their familiar patterns, and fail to realize any meaningful change. That is because their good intentions were lacking some essential elements. If you want to create a whole new reality, it is going to require learning some new skills and making a commitment. You need to be serious about changing your life, and you need to master the life skills that will allow you to take focused action toward achieving your goals.

The truth is, creating a life of exceptional quality requires effort. I know there are those who will try and tell you that an effortless life transformation is possible. That would be nice, wouldn’t it? But I think you and I both realize that is not how things really work. Besides, what is wrong with effort? Effort is fun when it produces the results you want.

I truly want you to experience the satisfaction of reaching your goals. I want to see you reach out and claim the life you really want. Why should you settle for less? If your life  hasn’t turned out quite the way you were hoping, then don’t you think it might be time to shake things up a bit? After all, if you just do the same things you’ve always done, chances are you will get the same results. Is that what you want?

Are you willing to change your approach?

Until we are willing to adjust the way we do things, it’s unrealistic to think that we can make meaningful changes in our life. So if you want to move toward an exceptional life and start achieving your goals, begin by asking yourself these three questions:

1) Am I truly ready and willing to really go for it this time?
2) Will I actually apply new life skills to accomplish my goals?
3) Am I willing to set priorities and work to avoid distractions?

If you can honestly answer yes to these three questions, then you need to get clear about what you want. The next step is to organize and prioritize the goals you want to accomplish, so that you know where to focus your attention. This means that you need to give some conscious consideration to what is really important to you, and what you really want to accomplish.

Once you have done that, you need to write a list of goals and set a deadline for accomplishing them. Then you need to prioritize those goals according to their importance in your personal and professional life.

Recognizing the crippling power of distractions

Trying to stay focused on achieving your goals can be really challenging when your life is full of distractions. To overcome this challenge, we need to be very selective with regard to where we focus our energy. If we’re not careful, little distractions can eat up enormous amounts of time. So we need to identify those distractions and impose strict limits on how much time we will allot for them. Make a list of things that easily distract you, and then schedule them into your day ONLY after you have given attention to your priorities.

Start at the beginning

It might seem like a huge task to claim the life you really want. That is why it is so important to break it down into manageable steps. As you go through the process, visualize your desired outcome, but stay focused on doing and enjoying the task at hand. Today I have asked you to think about your willingness to create change, make a list of your goals according to priority, and identify distractions that might get in your way. That is your task at hand and it is plenty for now. It’s a great place to start.

In the weeks and months ahead, we will consider simple yet effective life skills that can help you accomplish your goals so you can claim the life you truly want. However, those skills will only be valuable to you if you are willing to act on what you learn. So in the long run, it all comes back to the same question, are you willing to commit to a life of exceptional quality? Are you willing to actually do what it takes to claim that life?

How much do you want it?

If you are truly serious about transforming the quality of your life and seeing results as quickly as possible, now is the time to act. Do something affirmative starting today and get some momentum started. Yes, it will take some effort, but aren’t you worth it?

So, here we are at a new beginning. Will this be the beginning of the of a personal life transformation for you? Are you ready to ramp up the quality of your life to an unprecedented level? Many people set goals that will never become reality because they are not willing to do what it takes to follow through. Others make a commitment to creating positive changes and experience extraordinary results. Are you ready to claim the life you really want by finally achieving your goals? Then, go for it!

What life skills do you most need to create the life you really want?
Start by getting your priorities all lined out so you know what’s important?
Care to inspire me with your new plan?

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  1. Zeenat December 31, 2010 Reply

    Hi J!
    This is indeed going to be my year. I have a feeling that this is going to be the year immense positive change all over the world. There will be positive shifts in consciousness.
    I am so excited at the start of this new year.
    I just know the coaching coupled with your vast wisdom will be a tremendous success.

    • Jonathan December 31, 2010 Reply

      Hi Z, you are just radiating with positive energy and I can’t wait to see how it all manifests itself in the weeks and months to come. I’d like to take this opportunity to say thanks for all of your kindness and support. You are truly appreciated.

  2. Rocket Bunny December 31, 2010 Reply

    This year is going to be my turning point. I’m over the slump and up for anything!

    • Jonathan January 1, 2011 Reply

      Great attitude Bunny, I have a feeling you will way on top of things. Sometimes trials leave us much stronger and more determined than ever.

  3. David Smith December 31, 2010 Reply

    The year will be a turning point for me too. This year will mark the end of my employee life and the beginning of my entrepreneur life. I was held up from starting in November because of money issues but those are resolved and the wait gave me time to get a lot more of the planning done. A new year is a great time to start a new adventure.

    • Jonathan January 1, 2011 Reply

      Alright David, that’s a big step and you sound like you are ready for it. Keep us posted on your progress.

  4. Armen Shirvanian January 1, 2011 Reply

    Hi Jonathan.

    I sure am willing to change my approach. My mindset already has and so my actions follow it.

    Switching what we do is a requirement every so often, unless what we are doing is working very well, because we have limited time, and pushing against a wall is not a good use of that time once we realize that what we are doing is like pushing against a wall.

    I don’t usually break down goals into manageable steps, but when I do, oddly enough, they become manageable. I think most people don’t break their goals down into steps as well. Even driving a car can be tough until we split the process into steps.

    • Jonathan January 1, 2011 Reply

      Hey Armen, okay, now I’m excited to see what you are going to do. Whatever it is , I feel certain that it will have value and meaning. Change is good and embracing it feels empowering and exciting.

  5. Henway January 1, 2011 Reply

    I tried the goal setting approach and decided to get rid of any expectations and goal setting this year. I’m just gonna go in and have more fun, and enjoy life more. Life isn’t just about achievement – sometimes you gotta be grateful too.

    • Jonathan January 1, 2011 Reply

      So true Henway, I like to integrate achievement, gratitude, and fun constantly. Sometimes I lean a little more toward one than the others, but they are all present. It doesn’t need to be one way or the other. They can be synergistic.

    • Lauren Rains January 11, 2011 Reply

      Hey Henway!

      I’m actually a little with you on that one. I’ve sort of decided to do away with my strict To Do List of Goals and instead have really put the time in effort into creating a mission statement for this year & choosing the general scope of what it is I really want to focus and expand on.

      I want to send more time this year BEING & DOING, and not just DOING.

  6. Stuart January 2, 2011 Reply

    Some useful insights into taking action on all our dreams, Jonathan, thanks for sharing these with us.

    We only have one life in this world, where we have every opportunity to do and be all that we desire, yet most people would take the easy way out, not wanting to put in the effort and work. It’s disappointing to see this, especially when there’s so much potential out there.

    But we can change all this, with the advice that you shared here. Thanks for a great read Jonathan!

    • Jonathan January 3, 2011 Reply

      I know what you mean Stuart. I always think of the saying that there are 3 kinds of people in this world:
      1) Those that want something to happen.
      2) Those that make something happen.
      3) Those that wonder what happened.

      So, we all get to choose what category we want to be in.

  7. Carolee January 2, 2011 Reply

    I know it will be a good year- I have several clients lined up in the coming weeks, and my radio show is becoming more popular weekly….

    I love to learn, so I know I will always be going up!.

    • Jonathan January 3, 2011 Reply

      What a great attitude Carolee, sounds like you are off to a good start.

  8. Some people dream too big and want immediate results. But self-improvement is a long and never-ending process. Some of the best advice, like you mentioned, is to break things down into manageable chunks. That way we can see and obtain the little goals as we approach our bigger, overarching vision.

    • Jonathan January 3, 2011 Reply

      Hi Steven, “breaking things down into manageable chunks” is how we find joy in the journey and develop a pattern of progressive momentum. I think the wanting immediate results on big goals is a self sabotaging game that sets people up for disappointment.

  9. Joe Wilner January 2, 2011 Reply


    A very empowering post! I think a starting point to claiming the life we really want, is to, as you say, believe we are worth it. We must realize that we are capable and identify with the success and significance we desire. Until we are able to move beyond our self-imposed limiting beliefs, we will never fully commit to making change. We have to believe in ourselves first and know we are worthy.

    • Jonathan January 3, 2011 Reply

      That is so true Joe, those little voices in a persons head saying you don’t deserve success will put very real limits on what they can achieve.

  10. Joy January 3, 2011 Reply

    This is my year of beyond what I could previously imagine! I know this because the last few months have been transformative as I’ve embraced new and different which has brought me here, to this point. This point is amazing on all levels as I release what had been distracting to me, and focus my energy on enjoying the process of creating. Fantastic! Already in two days I’ve been using the momentum of the last few months to create an online class and restructure some necessary items in my personal life. Feels great!

    • Jonathan January 3, 2011 Reply

      You are coming from a really good place Joy. That is exactly the right attitude for unprecedented achievement in every area of life. I am confident that you will amaze yourself.

  11. Frank January 4, 2011 Reply

    Jonathan I love the advice to just start at the beginning.

    I can honestly say there have been times in my life where I gave myself this huge goal that I knew couldn’t be accomplished in an attempt to push myself to be better. All I ended up was frustrated and defeated.

    Now I have learned that by taking big goals and making them into small easy steps I am more likely to reach them. As an example instead of saying I will learn french this year one might say I will learn 2 appropriate greetings by the end of this week. Looking at it from this approach makes it seems so much more attainable.

    I guarantee if you take the same approach in all of your goals you will start to do things you never thought was possible.

    Thanks for the timely advice Jonathan.

    • Jonathan January 4, 2011 Reply

      That is exactly right Frank. We always have a choice, but it’s important to now that one choice sets you up for success and the other for disappointment. Personally, I prefer success!

  12. Lauren Rains January 11, 2011 Reply

    Hey Jonathan,
    I really enjoyed your writing here because it’s actually come at the perfect time for me. I just got back from living abroad for year followed by moving to a new location from New Jersey to FL (Beaches!)

    I thought a lot about what you said here – about committing to it, about really, truly taking the steps, about dedicating myself to focusing and expanding my skills and mind. I’ve actually labeled this year my Year of Me. I was never in a rut before, but I’ve felt I’ve been lost in limbo more or less for far too long. It’s time to fully take control of my life!! :)

    In the end, as Leroy Allison said, “We spend too much time living in the ‘what if’ and need to learn to live in the ‘what is.”

    – LAUREN :)

    • Jonathan January 11, 2011 Reply

      Hi Lauren, often it is the realization that we are spinning our wheels that serves as a tipping point for meaningful change. It is easy to just keep doing what we are doing and not notice the lack of real progress. I think of it as the ebb and flow of personal growth and we all go through it. Sounds like you are ready make things happen. I love that gathering of energy that takes place right before we launch into action.

  13. Idibya Theophilus March 2, 2011 Reply

    I am learning a lot from the life skills articles that you continue to send to me. My biggest challenges have been distractions, but with your guidance I am sure that I am going to succeed. Thank you very much sir.

  14. laya.lee January 6, 2012 Reply

    Hi Jonathan!

    It’s great reading your article here. This year is indeed a year of action for me since I’ve taken only a random approach to my goals for the last five to six years. Your suggestions are exactly the positive direction I needed. Thank you very much! ~laya.lee

  15. Julie January 8, 2012 Reply

    I have tremendous optimism about what this year has to offer. I agree with you complete Jon that the true changes happen when action and purpose are applied. I’ve got my steps laid out for the changes we are planning this year and it all begins by taking one step at a time.

  16. Jason February 15, 2013 Reply

    I love how this article really breaks it all down into an action plan for designing your future. We can’t always pick out future, but we CAN plan it.

    It’s all well and good to think happy thoughts and have hopes and dreams but without positive action, nothing will spontaneously come to you on its own. Very motivational and empowering. Thanks!

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