Are You Creating What You Don’t Want?

by Jonathan on February 8, 2010

Dont slip on the ice

All of us are very busy creating our personal reality. It’s a full-time job and we are all quite good at it. Problem is, most of the time we do this unconsciously. That means that there’s a strong likelihood we are creating things we don’t really want.

Because we are usually not consciously aware of our role in the creative process, there is a tendency to resist the idea that we are the ones creating it. This is especially true when we don’t like the reality we have created.

Until we acknowledge our role as the creator of our own reality we will probably continue to produce results we would rather avoid.

Avoidance and the power of negative focus

We’ve talked many times about the power of focus to help us accomplish our goals. But without direction, focus can actually cause us to manifest the very things we’re trying to avoid. In fact, an avoidance mindset can program us to continually produce the exact things we don’t want.

Here’s what happens when we try to avoid something. Let’s say it’s a cold winter day and there’s ice on the walkway. Obviously, you don’t want to slip on the ice and fall down. So, as you go out the door you think to yourself: “Be careful, don’t slip on the ice.”   [continue reading]

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